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| Author: | shdwboy [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 4:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | is it dumb to ask if im wasting my time? |
I've been talking to someone for a month. She lives a couple hours away but I like this girl. Anyway she was coming to see me Saturday but got into a "wreck" and didn't come. We talk all the time but since that night the conversation has gone down to a minimum. She still tells me she misses me but eh. Should I ask if I'm wasting my time or what? |
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| Author: | MisterRon [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 5:19 am ] |
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No, shows insecurity |
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| Author: | gelicious [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 5:39 am ] |
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man, that is such a question you just posted. Imho is better not to phrase that like that. If you are indeed feeling insecure or a little lost (like you don't know where you stand) in this relationship you are in, maybe you should try a different approach. Like probably being direct. Like if you feel that the wreck thing is a lie then maybe you can ask her something like u-Can I ask you something? her-yes U-was the wreck thing something you made up bcuz u feel I am putting pressure on you? her- honest response (elaborate), or bullshit response (short and nervous, quickly changing subject) Or you can ask her if she feels that you guys are moving too fast, or if you are rushing her or something like that instead.... wasting my time just has a certain unappealing ring to it... might trigger defensive behavior. You want to develop a connection that would trigger openness. I guess it's probably not a good thing if you are feeling that way anyway. I am just offering you my opinion on a tough situation you are in. |
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| Author: | P1nkstar [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 12:43 pm ] |
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can't you think for yourself or you are wasting your time with her? (focus on yourself, not on her) |
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| Author: | shdwboy [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 5:35 pm ] |
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Thanks guys. I've lost control of myself and really can't ask my friends cause I'm the only one with a pick up mentality although I've seemed to loose touch with it. I didn't go direct about her wreck but asked if her car got fixed. She replied yes but was short about the subject. I'm goin to a ball game where she lives and she told me that she could get me tickets and take me home later that Sunday so I can be with her the whole weekend. But she still is acting different than the last few weeks. It sucks that I worked so hard to get where I was able to just get over this stuff and move on to have one person tear it down. |
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| Author: | gelicious [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 9:36 pm ] |
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So you can phrase those feelings either way you want, you can sugar coat them the best way you know how. But at the end of the day, you are not offering her any value by doing so. In fact, you will be drawing value from her by feeling and therefor acting that way. And it is likely that if you are drawing value from her in that aspect, you are probably doing it in other aspects as well. It is probably an internal process, as it seems like you really like this chick. (that is usually a bad thing). Maybe you should " focus on yourself" (priceless advice). Begin by feeling better, sharp, valuable, higher, alpha, worthy, smarter, blah blah blah (whatever works for you). And then transfer that value towards her. (watch what happens). Like if you were really really really really valuable, and had this immense self respect, would you even be in doubt about whether or not you were wasting your time??? Would you even worry about a girl who you gave the opportunity of spending time with you and flaked? Wouldn't it be her loss?? Humble opinion bro... hope it can be useful |
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| Author: | Maikuljay [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 10:55 pm ] |
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Your the prize son, if you feel this way.. you probably are.. Next the bitch. |
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| Author: | shdwboy [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 12:57 am ] |
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Way useful guys. I just lost my grip and slipped a little. I'm the prize and if that's not good well dueces. That's how I've been for a long time and Im feeling great. Thanks fellas. Just needed a slash to the face to awaken. |
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| Author: | shdwboy [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 2:15 am ] |
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Way useful guys. I just lost my grip and slipped a little. I'm the prize and if that's not good well dueces. That's how I've been for a long time and Im feeling great. Thanks fellas. Just needed a slash to the face to awaken. |
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| Author: | Aligieri [ Fri Feb 24, 2012 1:43 pm ] |
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Quote: I just lost my grip and slipped a little. I'm the prize and if that's not good well dueces. That's how I've been for a long time and Im feeling great. Thanks fellas. Just needed a slash to the face to awaken.
Hell yeah, know what you are talking about cos I'm coming from the same place since monday.
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