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Author:  atom [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 7:18 pm ]
Post subject:  LTR Lost attraction
Met a girl at a festival and pickup her up absolutely textbook completely natural. Pre-selected running through attraction, DHVs and qualification.

To finally, seduction and a SNL with no LMR. Perfect right? :D Well kind of...she was a virgin and had only ever kissed a guy before. I decided to stick around and be a white knight, boyfriend material and treat her right, text her every night no freeze outs, NLP, game material of any description I just be myself. She tried the LJBF routine which I told her wasn't going to happen because we still were making out and getting really physical. She felt like she needed to be in a relationship to be doing those things with me so I obliged, quite happily.

Problem is she has been saying all along that she sees me as a friend and tells me she's not that attracted to me and doesn't like me as much as I like her.

What can I do to improve my situation??? Anyone??? :?
Author:  Wolfwoodd [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 7:35 pm ]
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So she thought you were super hot and slept with you the same day she met you, as a virgin, when you were the bad boy who picked her up... and then lost attraction for you, and put you in the friend zone, when you turned into the nice guy who bent over backwards for her in a committed relationship. Shocking. :roll:

-Wolf
Author:  enonid [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 8:40 pm ]
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no attraction.. well. she said it. btw, how old is she/you?
Author:  atom [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 9:12 pm ]
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Thanks for the truthfully sarcastic answer :D You are right, but how do I get it back without changing so much that she dumps me??

i.e. I stop texting/calling her everyday, she assumes I don't like her that much anymore and doesn't get the validation, doesn't feel that attracted to me anyway and so ends it.

or I start seeing other women or go on more nights out, she assumes I'm looking for someone else so ends it or worse does the same.

I'm 19 she's 17 :)
Author:  Maikuljay [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 10:39 pm ]
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what your asking is "how do i stop being a little bitch. " - ultimately there is no "quick fix" to this.. you need to work on yourself and become the man she's actually looking for.

Consider this.

You meet a girl, sweet as.. nice, treats you right, gives up the sex.. Then once you guys formulate a relationship.. cuts off the sex, starts acting like a bitch, argues with you all the time.

Essentially this is what you have done but in the reverse. - awesome bad boy, then pussy WK

How in the hell do you expect her to want to stay with that? I wouldn't..


My advice, Stop faking it. When that happens and you become the man you will keep the girl - it begins here, you need to accept what you are, move on and keep battling up hill. This course of action will eventually toughen you up a bit. You wont be on a forum asking for very trivial advice which is clearly answered in your original post.
Author:  Domr [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 10:45 pm ]
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Thanks for the truthfully sarcastic answer :D You are right, but how do I get it back without changing so much that she dumps me??

i.e. I stop texting/calling her everyday, she assumes I don't like her that much anymore and doesn't get the validation, doesn't feel that attracted to me anyway and so ends it.

or I start seeing other women or go on more nights out, she assumes I'm looking for someone else so ends it or worse does the same.

I'm 19 she's 17 :)
Two words my friend, Inner game.

A) You give her attention when YOU want to.
b) You seek out other women because YOU do or do not want.

While your points ARE valid they are ALSO irrelevant. Part of inner game is realizing more than one viewpoint can be right but certain mindsets are more beneficial than others. In this case your NEED for her, your desire to keep her at all costs is pushing her away. The tighter you squeeze, the less you have - in order to keep a girl around you also have to be willing to loose her too.
Author:  atom [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 11:52 pm ]
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Yeah you're all right I have been AFC'd by this relationship.

But how do I change without it being a sudden blip, like stopping texting her she will think I'm pissed off at her and therefore be pissed with me.
Author:  waty19 [ Fri Jan 27, 2012 12:51 am ]
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Yeah you're all right I have been AFC'd by this relationship.

But how do I change without it being a sudden blip, like stopping texting her she will think I'm pissed off at her and therefore be pissed with me.
Who cares if she gets pissed. She flat out told you she isn't attracted to you. That gives you the right not to care and do what you want. She dug her own grave. Start going out more like its no big deal. Start pulling numbers and setting other dates up. You don't have to freeze her out.. Just start "forgetting" to text/call her at night.. Or when you wake up.

Your going to lose her anyways if you continue down your path... Might as well take a chance and do this. Not going to hurt anything.
Author:  Iplayer [ Fri Jan 27, 2012 11:37 am ]
Post subject:  Re: LTR Lost attraction
Quote:
Met a girl at a festival and pickup her up absolutely textbook completely natural. Pre-selected running through attraction, DHVs and qualification.


Problem is she has been saying all along that she sees me as a friend and tells me she's not that attracted to me and doesn't like me as much as I like her.

What can I do to improve my situation??? Anyone??? :?
A soft next is essential I believe... In fact more....

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