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| Author: | Sleye [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 4:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Seeing this girl for 7 months |
Here's the background of the story: I've been seeing/dating/hanging out with this girl for 7 months. We met in a community college 3 years ago and have always been friends. About 7-8 months ago she and her boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up and we started hanging out. At first it was just for fun but then she came on to me and we hooked up. We've been hanging out ever since and we gel very well. However I recently brought up the relationship talk and she said she loves me (she was the first to tell me she loved me) and told me i'm her best friend. However, she tells me that she isn't ready to date but still wants what we have (hanging out, hooking up, going out, she cooks for me, etc). But she also wants to be able to go out and meet new people and have the opportunity to still possibly hook up with other people. She told me that she isn't ready to commit yet and doesnt want to jump from a relationship to another relationship. She doesn't want me to leave but yet she wants to hook up with other guys...to me thats confusing. I'm so confused about what to do/what her girl mannerisms mean? can anyone help me |
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| Author: | Wolfwoodd [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 5:22 pm ] |
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Unfortunately, you are being the woman in the relationship. Don't ever be the one to bring up the relationship talk. You are chasing her.. and that's not the frame you want to have. Now, the best thing you can do at this point is to keep having sex with this girl and also sleep with other women. If you want a relationship, and for her to chase you, then you're going to have to display your social value. Sleeping with other women accomplishes this goal by letting her know you are desirable and that you have options. -Wolf |
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| Author: | Sleye [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 6:00 pm ] |
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We spend quite a bit of time together though; at least 4-5 days out of the week but that will change when class starts back up, etc. To me it seems like she wants the best of both worlds, the comfortability of having me and how we act like bf/gf and yet she still wants the opportunity to meet other people. I feel like her rock and she's just using me until she finds something better |
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| Author: | Vietman100 [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 6:14 pm ] |
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It all depends on what you want. If you want a relationship, tell her that if she can't agree to that, then its best you two part ways. Don't let this girl use you and waste your time when you already know what you want but she's being Ms. Indecisive. However, if you don't want to get serious with her, then who cares what the girl does. You're getting some, she's getting some, everyone wins. |
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| Author: | Sleye [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 6:24 pm ] |
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I definitely want a relationship. My number is 15; my longest relationship has been 1 month and the longest ive ever had consistent sex with one girl is about 1 month but this girl is different which is why I want to try a relationship with her. |
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| Author: | mattyman [ Thu Jan 19, 2012 3:51 pm ] |
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i'd say you need to put on some pants and lay it down or her. tell her either she commits or she loses you completely. no friends, no contact, nothing. |
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| Author: | Ap [ Thu Jan 19, 2012 4:11 pm ] |
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This situation is your her back up guy, If she goes out and has a bad night your there to comfort her or if no other guy is avalible you are. Your always there for her that's why she's saying/doing these things just to keep you on her leash. Mattyman is 100% on the money cut contact with her straight away, then we'll see where she lies then you'll see how much she wants you or not, let her go and watch her come back is the best advice you'll get! just go have fun. |
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