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Author:  MagicCaveman [ Sat Jan 07, 2012 1:54 am ]
Post subject:  Trust Issues
Probably most of us have them but i was wondering if someone could give me a bit of advice.

Ok, I have been doing out with some girl for a few weeks, and I do trust her most of the time feel as though I trust her. Then when she goes out I'm always looking at her Facebook to make sure shes not kissing other guys in pics etc... and wondering.

Not that shes given me any reason to. However... I've been with about 12 girls who have had boy friends in the passed. One girl I got to know really well and I would have trusted her with my life. Then one of my best mates has been banging some girl who has had a bf for 2 years.... and she swears down to her boyfriend that theres nothing going on.

So how do i know with my girl friend? Yes, I could trust her, or should I talk to her about my trust issues?

hmmm :/
Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Jan 07, 2012 3:00 am ]
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Don't talk to her about it... Honestly, don't let her know in anyway that you have trust issues..

This is something you have to deal with internally... You just have to train yourself... Don't look at her facebook for 2 weeks. Don't try and check her phone or anything.
If a chick is going to cheat theres nothing you can do to stop it.. Looking at her facebook isn't going to change the fact that she cheated.. It only stresses you out.
Author:  Richard Pryor [ Sat Jan 07, 2012 3:09 am ]
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^he's right.

Also, take a look at the Red Flags: The official list thread. See if you see some red flags.
Author:  goodnamesaretaken [ Sat Jan 07, 2012 3:51 am ]
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Quote:
Don't talk to her about it... Honestly, don't let her know in anyway that you have trust issues..

This is something you have to deal with internally... You just have to train yourself... Don't look at her facebook for 2 weeks. Don't try and check her phone or anything.
If a chick is going to cheat theres nothing you can do to stop it.. Looking at her facebook isn't going to change the fact that she cheated.. It only stresses you out.
^this
Author:  MagicCaveman [ Sat Jan 07, 2012 10:23 am ]
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Before i asked her out officially, some guy came up to me and said, your the one banging "xxxx" and then told me he kissed her the week before, when i asked her she said it was a peck on the lips as a joke.

However next time i saw him, she kept hanging around when i went outside to chat to him.

I asked her to be honest, she seems honest. But I asked her if i was the only guy shed been with since we first met and she said yeah.

I don't know whether to believe her or not. It's a hard one -_-
Author:  om3n [ Sat Jan 07, 2012 10:41 am ]
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I am having the same issues, because I have also turned a couple of good girls into great sluts and I am afraid my gf might be the same way. The only thing we can do is to move on and don't care about it. If she feels from you that you don't really give a damn, she has one less reason to cheat on you. That's because she's wondering why you're not jealous and she spends her time chasing you.
Author:  General Lamb [ Sat Jan 07, 2012 12:22 pm ]
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It can be difficult to trust somebody. However it is not a good idea to give yourself undue stress.

When I was younger I used to have MAJOR trust issues. The way I got over it was assuming positive things, got example when she's out with her friends assume that she isn't and will not cheat. Trusting is basically assuming the positive, assuming the positive is easy.

Checking her facebook will only feed paranoia and negative assumptions. There are photos of me with girls on facebook who are simply very good friends of mine, but a paranoid mind would run away with such photos baselessly.

So basically:

Don't talk to her about it, never check her phone/facebook and never make baseless accusations.
Assume that she hasn't and won't cheat.

HOWEVER if there is a red flag for whoreishness, go back to the packed crowd and look for somebody else :)
Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Jan 07, 2012 1:06 pm ]
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Quote:
Before i asked her out officially, some guy came up to me and said, your the one banging "xxxx" and then told me he kissed her the week before, when i asked her she said it was a peck on the lips as a joke.

However next time i saw him, she kept hanging around when i went outside to chat to him.

I asked her to be honest, she seems honest. But I asked her if i was the only guy shed been with since we first met and she said yeah.

I don't know whether to believe her or not. It's a hard one -_-
I wouldn't have asked her out bro.. Now your all worried. Not worth it
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