PUA Forum :: Very new gf - get an xmas gift?

So I am in an exclusive thing with my girl now. It's very new (like 2 weeks). We dated a month before that.

This is where game/overgaming messes me up. Some guys on blogs say don't get her anything. Then there's the sex-oriented gifts, etc. None of these suggestions help me. All my friends tell me you have to get her something.

What is the max amount you'd spend? My buddy said $120 (usd) max. But I dunno... Has been a while since I faced this.

You are making this way more difficult than it has to be. Instead of talking to your friends about it, or people here about it... talk to HER about it!

The most simple solution is to just go to her and say "hey, Christmas is coming up...I was thinking XXXX about gifts. What do you think?"

That's it. It's really that simple.

Guys make things so much harder on themselves than it has to be, because they are afraid to just talk to their girls about things.

Are you serious? Part of the fun of giving someone a gift is for them not to know or have a say in what you will give them. Otherwise, it's like giving someone a gift card.

Whatever you do, DON'T talk to her about it.

But being in such a young relationship, I would avoid giving her a gift, unless you can give her something that's an inside joke between you guys.

Author:	Teknine [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 7:45 pm ]
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So I am in an exclusive thing with my girl now. It's very new (like 2 weeks). We dated a month before that. This is where game/overgaming messes me up. Some guys on blogs say don't get her anything. Then there's the sex-oriented gifts, etc. None of these suggestions help me. All my friends tell me you have to get her something. What is the max amount you'd spend? My buddy said $120 (usd) max. But I dunno... Has been a while since I faced this.

Author:	General Lamb [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 8:03 pm ]
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Hey there. $120. Google tells me that's about £76 which in my opinion is a lot of money for such an early point. Further on down the line that kind sort of money is fine though, but at this early stage it's quite important not to overdo it. You don't want it to feel like you're trying to buy affection, or pressure her into feeling indebted to you. I'd recommend getting something that is relatively inexpensive, but has had a bit of thought behind it. I'm in a very similar situation at the moment and I've spent £30 on xmas presents so that's about $47 according to google.

Author:	P1nkstar [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 8:15 pm ]
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Think about spending something that cost more time/effort then money.

Author:	KKenny [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 8:18 pm ]
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Give her something funny, dont spend much on it though

Author:	Lodewijkp [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 8:28 pm ]
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i would spend like 10 $ max.... it's the experience .. not the gift

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Author:	papichulo818 [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 8:55 pm ]
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Make her a computer out of pine needles and cones, and leaves. Meatwad did it on ATHF.

Author:	Ch1mera [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 9:23 pm ]
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Get her something under $10 if anything at all! I would personally not get her anything, or something from Poundland as a joke. LOL $120?! Getting here something THAT expensive after being in a relationship for 2 weeks, NO WAY, don't do it.

Author:	Sidnne [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 4:55 am ]
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Quote: So I am in an exclusive thing with my girl now. It's very new (like 2 weeks). We dated a month before that. This is where game/overgaming messes me up. Some guys on blogs say don't get her anything. Then there's the sex-oriented gifts, etc. None of these suggestions help me. All my friends tell me you have to get her something. What is the max amount you'd spend? My buddy said $120 (usd) max. But I dunno... Has been a while since I faced this. You are making this way more difficult than it has to be. Instead of talking to your friends about it, or people here about it... talk to HER about it! The most simple solution is to just go to her and say "hey, Christmas is coming up...I was thinking XXXX about gifts. What do you think?" That's it. It's really that simple. Guys make things so much harder on themselves than it has to be, because they are afraid to just talk to their girls about things.

Author:	Kinkyyy [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 8:42 am ]
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undergarments. gift for you and her

Author:	Richard Pryor [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 2:31 pm ]
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Quote: You are making this way more difficult than it has to be. Instead of talking to your friends about it, or people here about it... talk to HER about it! The most simple solution is to just go to her and say "hey, Christmas is coming up...I was thinking XXXX about gifts. What do you think?" That's it. It's really that simple. Guys make things so much harder on themselves than it has to be, because they are afraid to just talk to their girls about things. Are you serious? Part of the fun of giving someone a gift is for them not to know or have a say in what you will give them. Otherwise, it's like giving someone a gift card. Whatever you do, DON'T talk to her about it. But being in such a young relationship, I would avoid giving her a gift, unless you can give her something that's an inside joke between you guys.

Author:	Sidnne [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 6:25 pm ]
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Quote: Are you serious? Part of the fun of giving someone a gift is for them not to know or have a say in what you will give them. Otherwise, it's like giving someone a gift card. Whatever you do, DON'T talk to her about it. But being in such a young relationship, I would avoid giving her a gift, unless you can give her something that's an inside joke between you guys. Who said to tell her what you will get her? His question was if he should get her a gift at all. Grown ups talk to one another. Emotionally immature people play guessing games. If you get her something, and she is not expecting to do gifts and didn't get you something, then you put her in an awkward position. If you don't get her something, and she is expecting to do gifts and got you something, then you are in the awkward position and risk her being angry that you didn't get her anything. If you just talk to her beforehand and say "hey, are we doing gifts?" Then you are both on the same page and avoid the unnecessary stress and potential awkwardness. Plus, I can guarantee you that she is wondering the exact same thing, and she will appreciate you being man enough to talk to her about it.

Author:	Maikuljay [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 9:51 pm ]
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2 weeks, therefore there will be limited emotional attachment - should be a no brainer i'd spend maybe 30 bucks.. you'll look like a chump when you give her $100 item and she has nothing because hey.. you've only been together 2 weeks!

Author:	papichulo818 [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 11:50 pm ]
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Pearl necklace.

Author:	Teknine [ Thu Dec 22, 2011 5:37 am ]
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Thanks for all the replies. I'm feelin the low-cost factor. At the moment haven't gotten anything. If I get anything at all I'm staying in the $30 and below area, and it will be light-hearted and fun. Maybe topical/inside joke shit. Happy holidays guys

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Author:	papichulo818 [ Thu Dec 22, 2011 6:20 am ]
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Quote: So I am in an exclusive thing with my girl now. It's very new (like 2 weeks). We dated a month before that. This is where game/overgaming messes me up. Some guys on blogs say don't get her anything. Then there's the sex-oriented gifts, etc. None of these suggestions help me. All my friends tell me you have to get her something. What is the max amount you'd spend? My buddy said $120 (usd) max. But I dunno... Has been a while since I faced this. Make some vouchers she can redeem any time. For example, 1 voucher for a free full body massage, 1 for a tongue bath, 1 for foot rub, 1 for jacuzzi/sponge bath etc.. Don't make too many and apply some sort of condition to them like you can only redeem 1 voucher a month, for example. Be creative with it she'll be really turned out, guaranteed. It's thoughtful, creative, isn't over-extending yourself or raising a try-hard flag, and she'll think it's really cute.