PUA Forum :: THIS is the reason you SUCK at realtionships!

I see a lot of really dumb questions in this section quite often. Guys asking silly questions about irrelevant things, asking questions that are basic and fundamental, ect...

A big reason this happens is because many guys who find out about the community immediately start dating the first girl that shows mutual interest in them.

Instead of going out and meeting lots of women and getting good with women in general, they jump with the first one that will have them. The reason these guys are coming on here and asking silly questions is because they haven't yet learned how to deal with women.

Even if your goal is to find a GF, you should first go out, meet a ton of women and learn to be good with them in general. Once you have your fundamentals handled and are good with women in general, you wont have to come and ask these silly questions any more because you will know what to do.

What are you guys talking about!! You don't think you learn things when in relationships?? You learn a lot about yourself and women in relationships. You might learn things single too, and they're probably different things but guess what? Those lessons aren't any better then the lessons you learn in a relationship. It's called life, maybe you should look into it but you learn and grow in different and equally cool ways single and in relationships. Life dudes.

lol it makes me remember about me ...

i read like 20 pages of MM .. gone out and hooked up with the first approach lol... terrible

if i had gamed on i would have probably ran into some hot nice blonde girl

Author:	Warped Mindless [ Mon Dec 19, 2011 10:18 pm ]
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I see a lot of really dumb questions in this section quite often. Guys asking silly questions about irrelevant things, asking questions that are basic and fundamental, ect... A big reason this happens is because many guys who find out about the community immediately start dating the first girl that shows mutual interest in them. Instead of going out and meeting lots of women and getting good with women in general, they jump with the first one that will have them. The reason these guys are coming on here and asking silly questions is because they haven't yet learned how to deal with women. Even if your goal is to find a GF, you should first go out, meet a ton of women and learn to be good with them in general. Once you have your fundamentals handled and are good with women in general, you wont have to come and ask these silly questions any more because you will know what to do.

Author:	P1nkstar [ Mon Dec 19, 2011 10:25 pm ]
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haha, you shouldn't post that in the relationship section, for us it's too late

Author:	Mack 2.0 [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 1:01 am ]
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Quote: I see a lot of really dumb questions in this section quite often. Guys asking silly questions about irrelevant things, asking questions that are basic and fundamental, ect... A big reason this happens is because many guys who find out about the community immediately start dating the first girl that shows mutual interest in them. Instead of going out and meeting lots of women and getting good with women in general, they jump with the first one that will have them. The reason these guys are coming on here and asking silly questions is because they haven't yet learned how to deal with women. Even if your goal is to find a GF, you should first go out, meet a ton of women and learn to be good with them in general. Once you have your fundamentals handled and are good with women in general, you wont have to come and ask these silly questions any more because you will know what to do. solid advice. a fundamental truth.

Author:	Phoenix_ [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 1:57 am ]
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Quote: I see a lot of really dumb questions in this section quite often. Guys asking silly questions about irrelevant things, asking questions that are basic and fundamental, ect... A big reason this happens is because many guys who find out about the community immediately start dating the first girl that shows mutual interest in them. Instead of going out and meeting lots of women and getting good with women in general, they jump with the first one that will have them. The reason these guys are coming on here and asking silly questions is because they haven't yet learned how to deal with women. Even if your goal is to find a GF, you should first go out, meet a ton of women and learn to be good with them in general. Once you have your fundamentals handled and are good with women in general, you wont have to come and ask these silly questions any more because you will know what to do. i agree 100%. this is wat happen to me when i started game a couple months ago i went straight for the very first girl that i thought i had ''successfully attracted''. She became my gf and i was a HORRIBLE boyfriend because i was still very inexperienced. That relationship has since been over and i still have a lot to learn, but i decided that need to get a lot better with women before i get in another relationship. follow his advice!

Author:	Bond-007 [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 3:13 am ]
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Meh. Reading you gives me some kinda feeling you are mad at newbies and therefore trolling. There is truth in your words, but no real advice for the new guys nor the unexperienced. All you are basically saying is: stop begging, meet lots of girls and THEN look for a girlfriend. Dont BS me about you not being exited the first time you`ve read about these arts, or you wanting really bad to have a serious GF. If you are at that stage where you realize you need to take babysteps in order to be good with women, dont make a topic saying a dude to focus on the future rather than his exitement. What I say to the newbies: enjoy every single step of your journey, and LEARN from it. Your mistakes will show you more than the best topic in this forum. To Warped: there is always going to be silly questions, not only in this section, but in life. Deal with it couse you are not putting yourself in the next guys shoes, main reason why I think a lot of guys quit the forum: same old questions, same old storys. Noting personal, just wanted to defend the begginers =)

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Author:	MrMinimal [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 3:42 am ]
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Shit man your right, that advice made mad sense to me.. in a sense it saved me from myself

Author:	dark one [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 7:22 am ]
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I feel it is important to really go out and have fun before you settle down! I did this but not as much as I would have wished....when I met my gf I was at the pinnacle of my PUA "career" I fell that I could literally have had any women I wanted....even got to the point were one night I picked up a hd 9 within 10 mins of being in the bar and took her home....didnt have any intention of having a gf at all! but then I met my gf and she was rad as shit! coolest girl I have ever met so I locked her down....I really do miss the single life but what we have is special! You have to go enjoy yourself for atleast a 6 month to a year minimum before you start talking about long term relationships....or eles you will look back and think "wow what did I miss out on" every one needs that window of time were they went out, met new people, had fun, got a little crazy...even if its just a small window! its important or you might look back and think "I missed out".

Author:	Chief [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 9:00 am ]
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When I first saw this thread I thought "What the fuck is Warped Mindless doing posting in the Relationships board? He even misspelled 'relationship' in the fucking thread title." You're right, though. I see this same mistake being made by almost every guy I teach.

Author:	Mack 2.0 [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 10:25 am ]
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i think the original poster has spoken a fundamental truth that too many guys never realize. it's part of the "mindset of plenty". the point is, that yes, a relationship would be nice (if that is what you are seeking), but don't think that every girl you successfully "attract" should be your wife. because with these attraction techniques you WILL attract girls that you are not at all compatible with. you can hang with them, date them, fuck them, etc...but in a relationship sense the two of you would be totally doomed (incompatible). pua doesn't make you compatible with everyone. it just makes you able to attract more women. attract. not retain, fall in love with, and marry, for ever and ever. warped is right. there are too many guys posting here in this forum who are obsessively planning marriage with the very first or second girl they have ever had relations with. hell, ever kissed or even spoken with. this is needy raised the 100th power. remember guys, to restate what the OP said, attitude of plenty. it doesn't only apply to avoiding one-itis and picking up chicks. it also applies to realizing that you would be lucky (to someday) find a LTR or The One (or whatever), and what are the chances that she will be the first girl you lay? it's elusive. don't force it.

Author:	sangoma3 [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:32 am ]
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What are you guys talking about!! You don't think you learn things when in relationships?? You learn a lot about yourself and women in relationships. You might learn things single too, and they're probably different things but guess what? Those lessons aren't any better then the lessons you learn in a relationship. It's called life, maybe you should look into it but you learn and grow in different and equally cool ways single and in relationships. Life dudes.

Author:	Mack 2.0 [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:51 am ]
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Quote: What are you guys talking about!! You don't think you learn things when in relationships?? You learn a lot about yourself and women in relationships. You might learn things single too, and they're probably different things but guess what? Those lessons aren't any better then the lessons you learn in a relationship. It's called life, maybe you should look into it but you learn and grow in different and equally cool ways single and in relationships. Life dudes. i don't even see what you are responding to. the original poster is merely saying it may be prudent to realize that every girl you attract need not end up your wife.

Author:	Lodewijkp [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 3:00 pm ]
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lol it makes me remember about me ... i read like 20 pages of MM .. gone out and hooked up with the first approach lol... terrible if i had gamed on i would have probably ran into some hot nice blonde girl

Author:	Warped Mindless [ Mon Dec 26, 2011 7:01 pm ]
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Quote: lol it makes me remember about me ... i read like 20 pages of MM .. gone out and hooked up with the first approach lol... terrible if i had gamed on i would have probably ran into some hot nice blonde girl Thats what I did several years ago when I started

Author:	Max DHV [ Wed Dec 28, 2011 3:17 am ]
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The Attitude of Plenty - right on, and the answer to so many of the female issues we encounter. My tips for entrenching this mindset: 1. get good at internet dating - whether you believe in it or not, that doesnt matter and you may never even meet a bird through this method. You have out there a ready supply of women who are interested in you, will email and meet you should you desire. What more efficient method is there for improving your inner game? It worked for me and I am in a far better place because of it. As a starting point, lookup 'The Direct Approach' in this forum, everything flows from there. 2. get in the habit of jogging/walking on popular routes and then begin giving a simple 'hows it going', 'morning!', 'afternoon!' etc to random women walking past. Your aim is not to bag 100 numbers (good luck if you can!) but simply to be constantly interacting with new attractive women. Two free and easy to begin methods of reminding you that women are not a scarce resource.

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Author:	papichulo818 [ Wed Dec 28, 2011 3:39 am ]
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Quote: I see a lot of really dumb questions in this section quite often. Guys asking silly questions about irrelevant things, asking questions that are basic and fundamental, ect... A big reason this happens is because many guys who find out about the community immediately start dating the first girl that shows mutual interest in them. Instead of going out and meeting lots of women and getting good with women in general, they jump with the first one that will have them. The reason these guys are coming on here and asking silly questions is because they haven't yet learned how to deal with women. Even if your goal is to find a GF, you should first go out, meet a ton of women and learn to be good with them in general. Once you have your fundamentals handled and are good with women in general, you wont have to come and ask these silly questions any more because you will know what to do. Seems kind of obvious, but perhaps not so obvious to many.