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Author:  PUAzilla [ Fri Dec 02, 2011 12:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Dealing with a girlfriend who hurts you.
I know it's not alpha or in anyway admirable...
But I find myself constantly being hurt by my girlfriend. [We've been going out 7 months]

I wanna know if I'm too easily hurt, she'll just do things to piss me off or do something that upsets me.

I never make a fuss about them, I end up going quiet, she pesters me why untill I eventually tell her why.

What should I do??

In future shall I not let what she says/does get to me?
Is that the more alpha aproach?
I'm clueless!!

Let me know guys. :)
Author:  JSmooth [ Fri Dec 02, 2011 4:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dealing with a girlfriend who hurts you.
Quote:
I know it's not alpha or in anyway admirable...
But I find myself constantly being hurt by my girlfriend. [We've been going out 7 months]

I wanna know if I'm too easily hurt, she'll just do things to piss me off or do something that upsets me.

I never make a fuss about them, I end up going quiet, she pesters me why untill I eventually tell her why.

What should I do??

In future shall I not let what she says/does get to me?
Is that the more alpha aproach?
I'm clueless!!

Let me know guys. :)
You have been together 7 months. First off, you got the girl so don't worry about what's Alpha and what isn't. You need to worry about your relationship. It's very obvious that you are unhappy and she is trambling all over your feelings.

My suggestion would be to tell her that when she does X this is how it makes you feel. Perhaps if she understands what she is doing and realizes that upsets you then she will stop doing it. On the other hand if she continues to, then you have a decision to make about your relationship.

I would also very much recommend counseling session or two. A good counselor could give you more suggestions for how to bring this up with your girlfriend to express how it makes you feel and what you two can do about it together.

Best of luck,

Jon
Author:  Apocalyptica [ Fri Dec 02, 2011 6:27 pm ]
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1. A GF who hurts your feelings can't be a good GF.

2. If you never ever react on it, you are a pussy. Sorry to say.
Author:  PUAzilla [ Fri Dec 02, 2011 7:55 pm ]
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I never don't confront her. We always talk it through.

I'm happy half the time, but we can be having a great time, and then something she does just makes things hard.

Here's examples, they're petty but they're ya go.

1.) She arranges to see me at our normal time but ends up staying late at a work-do and texts me saying it was going to go on later. She said 'do you want me to come leave and see you?' I said of course not and that it's fine for her to carry on, we can see eachother another day, etc.

But this ends up pissing me off as she's tired the next day and pretty much all she does is falls asleep in my arms and all she wants to do is 'snuggle'.

2.) We're in bed kissing or whatever, both quite horny, she ends up getting me horny and me her, and then she looks at the clock and tells me I have to walk her home because she's gotta be in [college in the morning]. She's not teasing me or anything, she does this unintentially countless times. I would rather just not get horny in the first place and just chill, rather than get all worked up and it lead to nothing! It seems so stupid.

She doesn't mean to piss me off but it just gets to me.

I was wondering that if I didn't care as much, i.e. didn't confront her about these things, then maybe that would be the more 'alpha' thing to do.

Thanks for the help guys, but based on those two examples, what do you recon?
Author:  Rory1337 [ Sat Dec 03, 2011 12:08 am ]
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Dude, the ALPHA thing to do is to not react to SHIT tests which are intentional. However this girl is straight up putting herself above you, when she says she needs to leave while shes tickling your ballsack, shes begging for you to step up like a man and fuck her. You're her boyfriend man, you're only fucking her, hopefully shes only fucking you. Be the alpha and when you're in bed with her just drag her down and fuck her.

Be alpha for real.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Sat Dec 03, 2011 12:47 am ]
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i say give it to her in teh butt
Author:  happilyforever [ Sun Dec 04, 2011 8:33 am ]
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Honestly they dont sound like shit tests at all! Its kind of whiny and selfish of you to become upset over things like work and school. So shes got other things on her plate? At least she tries to rectify her working late by coming over the next day to "snuggle". Be grateful, because were it me, I'd be home asleep. I think you are too easily hurt, and you and she should work on ways to make you feel better when she has other things to do.
Author:  PUAzilla [ Sun Dec 04, 2011 10:55 am ]
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That's what I'm worried about; being too easily hurt.

Okay thanks I'll think about this stuff.
Author:  mcare [ Sun Dec 04, 2011 12:31 pm ]
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@PUAzilla: As far as no. 2 goes (leaving you unsatisfied). If I get turned on and I don't finish I get REALLY annoyed. About a week ago my GF picked up her phone while sucking my dick (I told her to pick it up - i needed some info from her dad). She hangs up after 20 seconds and say that she's not in the mood anymore. Well I did just what Mack 2.0 said :D

I also had couple of "I have to go"'s with different girls. I just fucked their brains out. "plan your time better or don't start if you don't have the time to finish". It's just one of the things I really hate and I don't let other people make me feel bad/annoyed.

But keep in mind that I'm talking about taking control and getting girl in the mood by going caveman on her. Not doing anything against her will.
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