women talk too motherfucking much.
you know it, i know it, we all know it.
you ever see these goddamn hens gabbing away in the fucking grocery aisle? or the damn dollar store? or just about anywhere?
if there is a fucking human ear within shouting distance, a woman is genetically programmed to talk into the fucking thing...
anyway (rant over)
my point is this:
there is a fine line between:
- listening (letting her GENUINELY vent)
and
- enabling (letting her JUSTIFY stupid fucking decisions with your silence or approval)
it's a fine line.
of course it's a good thing to listen. and if your girlfriend has had something GENUINELY (this is the "key" word here) unfortunate, or painful, or difficult happen to her that she DIDN'T DIRECT CHOOSE OR CAUSE...then yes, just let her vent.
however, if she is just stirring drama, or causing bullshit, or clearly THE SOURCE OF HER OWN FUCKING PROBLEMS...do NOT listen to that shit without telling her that she is dead wrong. this is enabling. and it causes two problems. one for her and one for you. the problem that it causes for her, is it allows her to continue to do stupid shit, unchecked, without ever learning, growing, or maturing as a person. the problem that it causes for you, is that SHE KNOWS she is full of shit, and you are just sitting there listening to it, nodding, agreeing...you do that ^...and you will LOSE ALL CREDIBILITY in her eyes.
women say "MEN NEVER LISTEN".
well, i don't think that's the case. i think that men are actually willing to listen, HOWEVER, we just don't want to listen to STUPID BULLSHIT AND LIES from the fucking fairytale realm of chick-insanity.
enough is a god-damned enough.
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Baby steps.