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Author:  T_Rex [ Wed Sep 28, 2011 12:26 am ]
Post subject:  Choice to be made..Need HELP!

Hey Watsup guys!? So heres the thing, I came into the game like 1 month ago and i told myself i wouldnt get into any relationships. I met this amazing girl and if i don't go after her ill feel like i missed out on a great opportunity to be with a great gall! I'm telling myself the worst that can happen is i learn about this relationship, you can never stop learning, even though ill be putting the game aside for an undetermined period of time. This girl likes me and i know it, i like her too! But i'm not sure what to do! I actually know what i want to do...which is to be with her, and i know i can learn so much about her and the relationship we can potentially have, i'm just scared itll change my PUA personnality which is very bipolar, knowing that i'm still in my early learning stages! Any comments guys? Any suggestions ? If you think i should go for it, then the other question i have, is how can i switch gears from friend, to kinda serious, sexual tension so i can kiss her or get more into her comfort zone!!!

Author:  mPUA Savior [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 3:53 am ]
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pua, game, pick up is about being attractive and desirable to the opposite sex. It teaches you to be confident, a liittle cocky and what not..

Just because you want to date a girl doesnt mean you have to stop the game i say still learn what you can and use it on her.

Author:  TheFreshPrince [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 3:51 pm ]
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There's nothing wrong with having a relationship, as long as you don't become absorbed by it.

You just have to decide, did you make this decision to not get in a relationship because you thought that and game were mutually exclusive at the time? Or are you now just being wrapped up in the emotions around this girl, and are just having some strong chemical reactions?

Sit down and think about this girl objectively. Who is she, rather than how does she make you feel. What kind of job does she have? Does she have an education? What traits does she have that you want? That you don't want? It's usually best to come up with a list like this before meeting any specific girl, because otherwise, the list will sometimes subconsciously mimic the girl, because you want her... :wink: But too late now, so don't worry about it. Just try to look a her objectively.

One last thing to think about is how are you going to feel about yourself, knowing that you're breaking a promise to yourself? That may have negative effects on your psche. I've studied some psychology, and know that doing something like this is subtly sending yourself messages, that will be the opposite of positive affirmations.

Regardless! All the above being said, I'm not trying to dissuade you from getting with this girl. It may be one of the best things you ever do, either positively, or if turns out bad, an awesome learning experience. All I want to do here is just make you aware of things, so that your mind can sort through your decision, rather than just being blinded by chemicals running through your brain.

As for how to do it, I'd recommend just starting by taking hr out on a lot of dates. I'm not saying often. Don't take her on five dates a week or something, but one or two dates a week for a month or two. Make sure you like what you see. Then yu can work on building a relationship.

Author:  T_Rex [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 11:51 pm ]
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I appreciate the posts guys!

Author:  idomiralin [ Fri Sep 30, 2011 11:53 am ]
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Don't have limiting beliefs. Try to have a relationship with her, while still improving your game. If you really like her, don't try to avoid being with her. If you want to get closer to her, then you have to test the waters and go trough the three phases:
1. attraction
2.rapport
3.seduction

I have some articles about that, that may help you, like "Don't fall into the friend-zone!" and other that can respond to many of your questions. Visit http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/.

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