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Author:  Sayha [ Sun Sep 04, 2011 1:58 am ]
Post subject:  Feelings for ex even if i have better one
lately i am starting to think about myself that i am weird or something so i try to describe my problem here maybe some could give me some help

i had a GF(it was my first real LTR) we were together like year and broke up 4 months ago
we were arguing every two weeks, she was headstrong everything had to be like she wanted, sex was very bad and we didnt have it often she didnt even want to use birthcontrol, she almost never initiated conatct first sometimes cause of this we werent in contact even 3 days and then when i conatacted her first she didnt even want to speak with me, when i asked her if she would cook something for me her answer was"i will only cook for my husband and he must deserve it", I didnt even like her dressing style all girls outside in skirt but she had jeans, I did much for her but looks like she didnt appreciate it and i could continue with negative things

SPAM I have a new girlfriend for 3 motnhs
we didnt have a single argument, she isnt headstrong and can make a compromise, sex is great and often she even uses birthcontrol (this GF also has MUCH bigger breasts), she is almost always the first who initiates contact, when i ask her for soemthing she does it, she already cooked me a good food, her dressing style is much better yea jsut good attributes

but when I compare look of those girls EX looked much better and had better figure except breasts :)

2 days ago I met with my GF since we had classmeeting which I was organising (no I didnt let her know about this meeting one classmate did) and when i saw her i again started to have this feeling, love :/ i would like to have relationship with her even if I know it would be totally worthless loosing of time but when i see her i cant control myself :/ i must touch her be close to her :/ this wouldnt be the problem but problem is i will be seeing her everyday since we are classmates.
at the end of the meeting we were a bit together I had strong feeling to pull her, hug her, and kiss her but fortunately I didnt do it and the only thing what we did was saying "hello" to eachother but she didnt even look to my eyes, could be shyness?

So i dont know if i am moron or something i have great girl which loves me and cares for me but I want to be more with my EX which was behaving me like a dog. Has anyone already had feelings like this because i can think all day but the only thing which i liked about my EX was good looking even if she has bad dressing style
oh and through day i also think more about my EX than about my current GF

So guys what you would do? stay with someone who cares for you but you care least for her or follow your heart?
Author:  Snake Doctor [ Mon Sep 05, 2011 12:59 pm ]
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Well its normal, sometimes you cant control, my ex was HB7 but after we broke up, i found HB9 who was way hotter, but still prefer my ex, is not always about looks. Also is normal if she was your first "love" some ppl say we never forget about them.

What isnt normal is (and sorry for my language) the bitch that girl is and you still want her back, ok you can love her, but wanting her back wtf?, wanna go back to hell. Because if you comeback, things will go more downhill, more fight , less and less sex to a point one per year come on man, be a man. that girl clearly doesnt deserve.

Guess what the great problem is here, is your current Gf being a puppy and do whatever you want, you clearly want a challenge and that girl isnt giving to you unlike your exGf some ppl like drama, and also you dont love her. Plz stop comparing your ex with the new one. If i were you i would dump my current G/F and would try to find a girl that completes me.
Author:  Verain [ Mon Sep 05, 2011 3:39 pm ]
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After the length of time you was with your ex maybe you should have spent more time time alone a month really isn't that long. No one can tell you what to do but if you're having these feelings about leaving your current gf then there's your answer.

However.
I strongly recommend not to attempt to get back with your ex she is your ex for a reason after all.
Author:  Apocalyptica [ Mon Sep 05, 2011 4:28 pm ]
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Hehe. We all love bitches. It's attractive. I know. You want to bang the shit out of them.

You do it 4/5 times. They keep on being the bitch, but you banged them. Slowly you start to get really annoyed by their fucked up behavior and you are WISHING for a girl who actually cares about you. Cause isn't that what you want? A GF should like you, and you should feel LOVED.

Now you HAVE a girl who deeply cares about you. But she is SO easy. Damn. Can't you really leave me alone for a day or two? Can't you really stop saying how much you like me? Oh man, look at that slut there in the corner. I would love to bang her.

Yeah.

But dude, if you commit with a girl you should do it because of her personality. Not because of her looks.

Don't think a good girl is easy to find. If you break up, you might regret it later. There are a lot of bitches out there. The good girls are hard to find. Be happy you are with a good one.


"meglio una brutta di una bella stronza"
Author:  Sayha [ Tue Sep 06, 2011 8:37 pm ]
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thanks for reply guys it helped me :)

but how would you act around her? i cant just ignore her we are classmates and in same social circle
or it would be better to speak with everyone except her and when she says something just act like she didnt say anything?
Author:  Snake Doctor [ Tue Sep 06, 2011 9:16 pm ]
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if you are asking how to act around her then you want to go back with her?
Author:  Sayha [ Tue Sep 06, 2011 10:00 pm ]
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not rly but we are travelling together and we see eachother almost every day and i just dont know how to act, sad/happy/jelaous/alfa?

btw i am almost sure if i would go for kiss she wouldnt resist
Author:  Wal [ Tue Sep 06, 2011 11:37 pm ]
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If you act indifferent you will become indifferent.

At some point you'll come to the mindset that it was just one of many relationships you'll have had in your life. At that point you will be indifferent.
Author:  MisterRon [ Thu Oct 20, 2011 3:19 am ]
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I am in the exact same boat mate! exact same
Author:  Sidnne [ Thu Oct 20, 2011 4:09 am ]
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Quote:
After the length of time you was with your ex maybe you should have spent more time time alone a month really isn't that long. No one can tell you what to do but if you're having these feelings about leaving your current gf then there's your answer.

However.
I strongly recommend not to attempt to get back with your ex she is your ex for a reason after all.
I agree with this. It is never a good idea to get into a relationship so soon after ending a previous one. 1 month is not enough time to get over someone you've been with for a while. Even if you don't want to be with previous person anymore, you still have all of those thoughts, memories, routines, connections in your mind, and especially in your subconscious. When we try to find someone new so soon, we end up putting a lot of pressure on that person because we subconsciously want them to be a replacement and pick up right where the other left off, and we also tend to compare the new person to the ex. It's not fair to the new person and it certainly isn't fair to yourself.
Author:  TheChallenger [ Sun Oct 23, 2011 5:56 pm ]
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You have to overcome your emotions, you are attracted to her, but you dont want to be with her! realise that!
Author:  meganaxx [ Wed Nov 02, 2011 9:57 pm ]
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You have to overcome your emotions, you are attracted to her, but you dont want to be with her! realise that!
thats a great way to put it...listen to this man
Author:  reel2real [ Thu Nov 03, 2011 3:53 pm ]
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Dude:

This is your first LTR. I hate to tell you this, but you are ALWAYS going to remember your first LTR. You will never remember your second, or third LTR but your first. Trust me, I resent my first LTR to this day but I still remember her.

Your best bet is to keep improving yourself in the areas that you desire to do so. You have a GF so it shows that you are a good man somewhere. Maybe even your ex will notice...but keep the ex out...thats asking for trouble down the line...and dont ever ever ever mention the ex to your new gf.

good luck.
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