Hey man. I am fairly new to NLP but I have noticed some of the same things you have discussed here. In my opinion some NLP tactics (used in pick up) are naturally gained over time as we gain a deeper understanding of the female mind.
This one has worked well for me online. Give it a test run and see how it works for you:
I will send an i.m. to a girl that I find interesting. I say to her, "I can make you fall in love in less than 1 minute. Would you like to see how?" The fun and interesting girls will be intrigued and play along. These are the girls you want so this is a great method to weed out boring girls. When she agrees you walk her through the following steps. You tell her to turn her left wrist outwords to expose the inside of her arm. Then take the back of her nails on her right hand and stroke the inside of her left arm. While doing this tell her to stare deeply into your picture. After ten seconds of doing this ask her how she feels about you now. Regardless of her answer you tell her, " Yes, but I have you stroking yourself and looking at my picture in less than 1 minute. Imagine what I can do in 30
If she is fun and exciting she will love this...Keep me posted if you come across any cool NLP stuff man. Cheers!