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| Author: | ak471991 [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 2:00 pm ] |
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What's up everyone. So I've never really thought about this kind of stuff before...I've seen some stuff from David Deangelo but I think I haven't used it properly. Anyway lemme cut to the chase here. So there was this one girl that I was into - I got to know her because we have a common interest - soccer. I'm about to be a junior in college (young, I know). So just before the end of last year there was this formal that I asked her to and she said yes. In the lead up to it, she was swamped with a lot of work/shit to do and the formal would have been the first time she got a break in like 3 weeks. Thing is, I couldn't tell what zone I was in (more on that later). So I didn't really have any game plan. That night, I go with her and on the way there, I try to make conversation - my game wasn't the best but it was ok I think. Conversation was okay but I could sense something was off. Then when we get to the place, we go get drinks and all. Things seemed aite, or so I thought. But then she left halfway. I think she was pretty stressed out (she mentioned something about that earlier in the day when I saw her) and formal was just too much for her to handle or I could just have been a bad date but I can't be sure. So I leave her alone for a few days, then I see her on Thursday (formal was the previous Saturday). So I just ask her if she was feeling better (about stress) and avoided mentioning anything from formal. I ask her if she wants to get lunch on the weekend and she says she'll get back to me (she doesn't). Then a couple of days later I run into her at this sports bar watching a soccer match (I think this is part of the problem also - I knew she'd be there sort of). At first we don't talk but then we talk about stuff like what we're doing this summer etc. After the match that's the last time I see her before summer. I'm into this girl but I think I fell into that trap called the friend zone without even realizing it. I know that I should give her space and thankfully I'm far from her this summer. So other than giving her space now what else can I do when I get back to school in September? I don't want to get to hung up on this so I'm finding other things to distract myself. I'll admit this now: I've hooked up with girls before but I've never actually got with a girl that I'm into. Anyway, I just wanna up my game, get out of that zone, and I hope you can help me. |
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| Author: | LVATTEMPTS [ Sun Jun 26, 2011 3:15 am ] |
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ehh.... to me it doesnt even sound like your in the friendzone with her. It sounds like she just... doesnt want you. Game other girls! |
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| Author: | Wildleaf [ Sun Jun 26, 2011 5:55 pm ] |
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I do quite believe this is a case of one-itis. I'd say the advice above is about the best thing you can do. Lately, after spending time with a girl I want to make something more happen with, I go to a bar and approach. It re-centers me. Even if you want that one girl, the absolute best thing you can do is go out there and flirt with other girls. Get un-stuck from this. It's possible 
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