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| Author: | optimal [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 3:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | new guy wanting to learn how to get girls at school |
yeah so thats the deal. well im 17, go to high school in 9th grade, and im mexican-american well about me i don't dress well, but i do have nice hair, as for my weight im in the middle, and i talk well for a mex. so im just in high school(2nd year) and would like to talk to some new people(girls) but i would alway be to nervous to come up to them and say hey, and if i do go and talk to them i wouldnt know what to say. so all i need help with is what to talk about when im with a girl. |
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| Author: | Imperial [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 6:08 pm ] |
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Hey Optimal, Talking to girls at school can be very hard because of rumors and that shit. It is similiar to what Mystery mentions about the approach anxiety. In pre-historic times if a tribal male approached a girl and she already had a partner, the male partner would get his friends and smash the tribal male in the head with a rock. Anyways, I just suggest you read The Mystery Method, and The Game. This will be a good starting point. You need the tools first. The MM gives you the knowledge you need to master the venusion arts. |
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| Author: | negsta [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 6:52 pm ] |
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I didn't have that problem, but only because I went to an all guys school. ...it was hell. |
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| Author: | optimal [ Sat Sep 08, 2007 5:06 pm ] |
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alright ill go get it now. |
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| Author: | J.Fox [ Sun Sep 09, 2007 10:18 pm ] |
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Whats up! Well men If you are mexican, I can say that you are Latino right? If you are Latino use the latino style!  That means be the guy who hug girls, walks wif open legs and scracth his balls! It means go on wif the macho style; If you wacht The pick up artist on VH1 be like Kosmo or something like that ;D I dont use this style but it works very well! J.Fox |
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| Author: | nsquared [ Mon Sep 10, 2007 2:35 am ] |
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i had the exact same phobia of not knowing what to say so heres wat u need to UNDERSTAND: insecure people often feel that convos must have a "purpose". for instance at school you only feel comfortable talking to a girl at a party if you have something to talk around...EVERY TIME...so every time you try and talk to that girl about something that was in ur bio class together, either something funny or homework.... a lot of PUA might make use of those shared experiences AS AN OPENER and then switch....were an insecure person will think: i dont know what to talk to her about...oh we have bio together...and you cling to that convo. this is bad. if you cling to one topic it will mean: A) once that topic runs dry your fucked with nothing left to say B) shell notice that thats all you two talk about and that will come off as insecure so heres what you need to DO: when you go out with friends, you are socially vibing...not clinging to a topic....its not like business meeting where you discuss your one deal and then reconvene to discuss that same deal later.... theres three parts to effectively VIBING: 1. dont try to argue. insecure people will see any convo as an opportunity to DHV and go into attack mode. instead phrase it as a yes is yes and no is maybe: "ya i hear ya, but you understand how books are..... or ya definatly, but u see how one can percieve it....." your not being walked over, but your not being insecure and arguing and killing the comfort 2. dont reject social ques: if you have seen superbad! you know exactly what Im talking about! if she says something about wanting to join you one night or hang out or see your soccer game or anything like that....acknowledge it! dont be like the guy in super bad who would be like: HB: oh you play soccer, ya i thought about going to see a game maybe i will... GUYFROM SUPERBAD: "...um ya i dunno its hot out and i mean i dont always play the whole game---" GOOD VIBING here would acknowledge her social ques and say: "Ya thatd be awesome, i better see a big sign!" another example of a poor accepting of social ques is this: BOB: you wont believe what I got this xbox 360 for! YOU: lemme guess you gotta deal on it and got it for 150. BOB:...ya...175...howd u know? ..... INSTEAD: BOB: you wont believe what i got this xbox for! you: i dunno 600? bob: nah 175! you: shit thats sweet! who the hell did you have to kill for it?! haha instead of trying to intercept and be insecure trying to guess ahead that he got it cheap...just VIBE and GO WITH IT! 3. Body language: a. if you cant get eye contact (dont be a creep and lock without blink lol) at least keep your head up! look above the horizon especailly when walking b. be congruent in your speed of movement and talking (err on the relaxed slower side) c. match their intensity (if they are excited, so are you)...this is differnt when trying to be the life of a party when you go out obviosly finally heres the biggest tip: you will never be afraid to hold a convo again! open ended question or statement: pull out a key word and do it again!: her: bla bla bla bla bla dogs bla bla bla you: ya i had a dog...his name was ______, u have any pets? her: ya bla bla bla bla story about her pet bla bla bla uncle and shot guns you: woa! your uncle collects shotguns!? is he scared of you? her: NOOO!  ...well actually this one time bla bla bla bla bla forest bla bla blayou: ya forests and me dont sit well, i went camping once,....bla bla i know your reading this and thinking DUH its called conversation. but for some of us who arent very socially intelligent like i was, actually need to consciosly pick out key words to constanlty mold the convo. you will need to callibrate how drastic of a change you need to make with keying certain words and how often, but really u should never ever be afraid of holding a convo once you master how to key certain words and elongate a convo that you once would of stalled. the point: if your talking about dogs and she mentions her uncle in tazmania...WOA....forget dogs thats your new convo! |
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| Author: | Walliegabe [ Mon Sep 10, 2007 6:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: new guy wanting to learn how to get girls at school |
Quote: yeah so thats the deal.
isnt 9th grade 1st year? but ya...was reading stuff around and everybody says "it doesnt matter WHAT you say...HOW u say it is more important" so use good body language, smile...and just talk about anything, like the example the guy above me gave u, she said something about forest, so pick it up from there and make up a funny/interesting story about what happened when u went camping or something...
well im 17, go to high school in 9th grade, and im mexican-american well about me i don't dress well, but i do have nice hair, as for my weight im in the middle, and i talk well for a mex. so im just in high school(2nd year) and would like to talk to some new people(girls) but i would alway be to nervous to come up to them and say hey, and if i do go and talk to them i wouldnt know what to say. so all i need help with is what to talk about when im with a girl. |
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