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| Author: | Imperial [ Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:57 pm ] |
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Hey PUAs, I am getting into the world of pick-up artists, and I'm liking what I am seeing. I am reading The Mystery Method right now, and find it very interesting. How is The Game by Style? He seems to be a genuise in the world of venusian arts. Unbelievable really. My biggest problem is approach anxiety, which luckily is the case for almost every AFC, but I have serious social anxiety in every situation. It is really hardwired into my head. I went to a book store and couldnt even make eye contact with anybody! It just comes down to me giving it a shot with nothing to lose. It is really hard though. Any advise from you artists about AA? Thanks. |
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| Author: | RawWingman [ Mon Sep 03, 2007 9:10 pm ] |
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Best piece of advise I can give you is to stand tall, put your shoulders back and keep your head high. If you are anything like I was you are walking around stairing at the ground really not making any eye contact with anyone. I made a joke to my friend the other night that worked for him, and I told him to strut like he was in sat. night fever, or he just took a really good shit. Until you have self confidence you cant do to much, you have to surpass your fear. Face your fears and live your deams!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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| Author: | greedo [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 3:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Liquid confidence |
Here's a way to gently slide into social situations....get a strong buzz at a bar and you will have that famous liquid confidence. I'm not advocating this for every time you go out, but when you first start out, it will help you to break the ice and start and opener. What's the worst that could happen? A simple "no" or rejection, nothing more. Even the best PUA's will get denied from time to time. You can't expect it to work everytime and you have to get used to it. Once you have had a few good experiences opening with "liquid confidence" try it sober and just try to emulate what you did buzzed. In the end, you just have to man up and get out of your comfort zone because what you have been doing up to this point hasn't been working. ***WARNING*** --DON'T GET DRUNK, JUST BUZZED ENOUGH TO OPEN A SET-- -Greedo |
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| Author: | RawWingman [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 4:15 am ] |
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only problem with that advice i see greedo is if you get a good buzz going, some women react negatively to the buzzed guy coming up and talking to them. Also if you prescript your game or plan on doing something, then you are also more likely to forget what you want to say, or what you said for later use. I can see how it works for some, but for anyone with a really high tolerance to alcohol, i would reccomend just sucking it up and taking the chance. |
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| Author: | greedo [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 4:32 am ] |
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RWM, yeah this technique is for those who want to step out of canned lines and pathways to the close. At the sametime, it's good for beginers because it will boost their confidence...even if they were a bit buzzed. Living here in Las Vegas, I don't even have to try with this technique...all you have to do is find 1 of 20 bachelorett parties going on at any given time in the club and you're in....but thats a whole other topic.... |
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| Author: | Imperial [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 5:49 pm ] |
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The only problem with that is I am only 19. Can't drink legally in U.S. Plus I had an incredibly bad experience with alcohol last time I drank, and don't plan on for a very long time. I just think you have to eventually say fuck it and face your fears. Every PUA fears the approach. Its about competence not confidence. |
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| Author: | RawWingman [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 6:43 pm ] |
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There is nothing like liquid courage to piss off a woman, they notice it and unless drunk themselves will adversly react normally. Especially if they are 9-10. Lower value women are easier, but the higher the value the more adversely they will react. If your having AA with being sober, dont have any game plan other than meeting people. Go to a mall, or a cafe, hell anywhere people gather during the day, and try to initiate a few conversations. Day game is different than night game since it is slower paced and you are only really likely to get a # close as general closure. Use time constraints as you would at a night, but use the day to be more observant of the things she has around her. Books might mean she is in school, or a computer may give you some indications of things she likes by what is on the screen if you approach her from behind. Keep your eyes open and try to think quickly to be origional. If there is a 2+ set run similar game as night but the relocation phase might be to meet later for dinner or drinks. Dont alienate anyone in her set, but dont let your taget think you are to into her friend either. Day game is slower in that what you can expect to happen at night doesnt necicarily go the same way during the day. Same basics apply but I personally think running day game is easier since womens guards arent as quick to react during the day.I reccomend day training for a little while then try nights. Anything you can do, like go to the local hang out to meet people. |
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| Author: | Imperial [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 7:36 pm ] |
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Yeah. I could seriously use a wingman though. |
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| Author: | Romeo7 [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 8:59 pm ] |
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Start talking to people. Meaning THE SIMPLES THINGS You see, what most people don't realize when they get into the game is that people are not as mean as we think, instead everyone wants other people to talk to us. It won't hurt to talk to a stranger Imperial, have you ever asked for directions? Have you ever asked for the time? Have you ever told someone they forgot something? What's the big difference between asking for the time? and asking for her name? Of course if you ask for her name, it may not be a pick up, but you're at least talking with a stranger. You see, if your mentality is that of "PICKING UP WOMEN" then you will be a MEDIOCRE FAKE WANNA BE PUA A PUA is a social fun confident guy, with extra skills. That's all, you can even say that a PUA is a natural that is just educated, meaning a PUA knows what he is doing in the interaction... So, Start saying "Hi" to people Ask for adive, dont hit on them, dont ask for number, dont go with that mentanlity Just smile ONCE to a person, and I promise she will smile back Then do it again, and guess what, it will happen again. Welcome |
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| Author: | negsta [ Tue Sep 04, 2007 9:11 pm ] |
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Hi Imperial, I'm working on my inner game/normal interactions right now. Trust me...smile, make eye contact and speak clearly. You won't die. They won't think you're overdoing it. I promise(unless, of course you run into a psycho. These are only 1% of the population anyway). I've been trying this more. It works. Soon the instinct in you that makes you pull back will vanish. This I promise too. Good luck man. |
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