If you're trying to get her back (which I think you are) then you should not only give up on that idea, but you should read my thread in the relationship section about ex girlfriends and apply what you read.
However, you've got other problems which I won't attempt to advise you on dealing with because I'm far from experienced enough to do so... plus I know Heywood usually gives some brilliant advice, providing you're willing to take action and the language barrier isn't an issue - he only speaks fluent "fuck what everybody else thinks"
