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You're in school. Make you're social circle. You'll have to cold approach to do it though. That's how I did it
Hey Mr A I agree with your reply and I'm starting to be more pro-active in talking to strangers, whether thats in a club or the local supermarket. I don't think I have a massive issue with confidence in starting a convo with random girls but until recently, I came out as either boring or too needy. Boring because I played it safe and mostly did small talk until the convo dies, or too needy (usually because of too much alcohol boosting my confidence to the point of asking girls out straight on ).
This year I am planning to stop getting anywhere near tipsy let alone drunk and have started practising being spontaneous and interesting. I also need to get better at ending chats in a way they can continue later or even closing the deal, as often even if a convo starts of great, from fear of ruining it I don't take the next step.
Had another decent chat on tinder today (compared to previous chats on fb etc), she agreed to a date but I had trouble finding out her availability as the chat sort of continued onto other topics. To try and fix the situation, I decided to end the chat by saying I had to go do something (which was true anyway) and asked her when she may be free to continue over pizza (earlier on that was agreed). She replied with have a good time with the task but did not give any availability so not 100% sure what I'll try next.
I am slightly worried that even if I do get a date out, having not done one before, I won't be able to live up to some of the funny things said on chat. Talking to random girls isn't scary because there is always an easy exit out for both parties, but the idea of committing time with a stranger on a date does scare me a little. If a date does materialise, I'm planning to not take it too serious and just try my best, as I'll need the practise anyhow. Mistakes are the best teachers eh?
