Hello,

My name is Al and I live in Los Angeles. I am back in the game after being in a 10 year relationship. Prior to the relationship, I didnt have much game either and would go through bouts of major long slumps. Then I read "The Game" in 2006 and I was able to start meeting more women although not anything higher than an 8. Eventually, I connected with a coworker that I knew for a year and we fell in love. Or at least that's what I thought. She had three kids from her ex-husband that at the time were 1, 2, and 3 yrs old. I quickly became attached to them and overnight I was a father.

Then in 2008, I found her cheating with a contractor guy that I was working with. Because I was afraid to be alone again, I forgave her and we resumed the relationship. We had our ups and downs that I thought were normal but when I look back, there were many signs telling me to leave. I was just naive and pretty much stupid. Then in December 2014, I proposed to her and we were planning for a wedding. Around May 2015, her behavior changed and she was spending more time away from home and coming home late. I wasnt able to realize what was truly going on till January 2016 when I caught her cheating with the daugther's friend's dad from the volleyball team. So that was two times now and I knew both guys and said this needs to stop.

But then I went into denial and continued to be with her until March which is when I finally said, I need to be strong and move on. Since then I have been trying to become a man again after being heartbroken and demoralized. I forgot what it was like to go on dates, talk to girls, and kiss. Since March, I have not been with another girl and its getting pretty frustrating and pathetic. I have been doing a lot of reading, watching videos, and changing my image but have not had any success. I dont even have any success on the online dating sites.

My biggest problem is approaching women. If I am able to start a conversation with a woman call it by luck, I am not able to take it anywhere and I think either my desperation comes out or I make asshole comments. Or basically, not doing a good job of flirting. Lately, I have been thinking about completing one of those week long seminars to get my head right but not sure which one to sign up for as it seems there are a good number of them in LA. Any suggestions on how to get back on my feet and get freaking laid?

Hello,
Because I was afraid to be alone again, I forgave her and we resumed the relationship.