Hey all. Marty here. I am 54 years old and have been doing opens since March. So, just getting started. I have been divorced for 14 years, and my ex, who had self esteem issues did manage to turn my daughter against me. I knew she would try this, as she had tried the same with her son while we were together. Only a few more months of child support. Then I will be completely free. Too bad I can't be 20 years younger too, LOL.
I live in Los Angeles, and my main thing to do going out wise is roller skating. This is where I typically do my game. So far, just light weight stuff. Approaching, talking, and Kino. No attempts yet at getting numbers or true escalating. I really love Kino. I take to it well, and I really get good smooth interactions with it. I also notice things do not go as smoothly when I neglect to do it. As my login name indicates, I get to Orange County also.
Though I typically game at night, my mindset is more of a day gamer. And though I skate at night, it is really more of a day game vibe.
What am I after? Well, sex would be nice. After all the rough going I have been through, a serious relationship does not seem appealing. But who knows. I do have interest in finding a submissive woman. Termed D/s, it is a specific subset of BDSM. Male Dominant/Female Submissive. No role reversal. So when I get a steady thing going with a woman, I will definitely try and steer things in that direction. Being a little older, crops, floggers and restraints and toys are good tools to make sex fun last hours. I can't simply do that physically like I did in my 30's. So going for some kink, domination play and using toys to keep the sex spicy.
Something quirky about me: IDGAS. I don't give a shit. I was reading an article, and it was stating IDGAS is not a state of mind, but a tactic. I can see how that is likely right for most. For me, IDGAS is really the top thing in my mind at all times. I have a very active mind. It is always full of reasons not to do this, not to do that, worry about this persons' opinion, etc. So IDGAS is the FIRST thing on my mind. Good game technique comes second. Keeping IDGAS first in my mind has served me well. It quiets my mind, and helps me be relaxed and casual. It does not turn me into a rude lunatic. It just frees me to act, and pursue game. I got stonewalled by these 3 women I went to chat with the other day. It was really my first rude stonewall. I totally kept my cool, wished the ladies a nice evening and moved away. The first thing on my mind: IDGAS. And after that, what's next?
Money is going to be tight for me until child support ends in October. One of the reasons I am only opening, and not even pursuing numbers or dates yet. Low funds for stuff like dating. While I do do some direct approaches, I guess most of my approaches are indirect as they are really related to helping a woman to skate. My thought is, particularly with groups of women, to go for some FB friendships. To build a network of female friends for networking purposes, and perhaps meeting at the skate rink, until such time as I have the money to hunker down and pursue dating more in earnest.
I am enjoying a lot of good interactions with women now, and have had some interactions that probably could have gone farther than a conversation. Before, simply having a nice conversation with a woman was a big deal, and very seldom happened. Now, it happens quite easily. And my Alpha-ness is growing. It feels GREAT. Just a little bit of information, and a few techniques. What a difference it makes!