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| Author: | Tan5456K [ Fri May 08, 2015 4:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Day 1 |
So here I start my transformation from a complete AFC to a real player. Before beginning though, I had to do some background things. 1) Looks:I went and had a haircut I always wanted to have. My looks instantly changed for the better. And also bought myself a fake ear piercing. 2) The opener:There are a lot of people who walk their dogs. This is where I would look for target. I scanned the internet about various dogs found in my city (Mumbai). When I would find my target, I would approach and say, "Hey, it's a (dog's breed), right?" and then play a little with the dog (if it's friendly) and then say," I am thinking about having a dog. Is it really hard to raise a dog?"...It's an opinion opener and if this doesn't make them start talking, I don't know what will. Day1 I was walking towards my office and a girl (not so cute) was walking her dog. Things that I noticed: 1) She was alone. 2) The dog was a Labrador 3) I was approaching her from the back which meant that I shouldn't call her. She could easily ignore me from that angle. So I decided to let it go. She was in my route so I had to overtake her to reach office. I was about to overtake her when she suddenly wheeled around and her dog gave a friendly bark to me. "Hey, it's a Labrador, right" I said instinctively."Yes" she said with a polite smile. I didn't know why I said that but, whatever, if it's started, let's try to finish it. I patted the dog on the head. "I was thinking of buying a dog" I said. These words should have been a bit louder but they came out as a mumble. I knew I had committed two mistakes:1) the words were so soft that she probably didn't hear what I said and 2)I didn't look into her eyes while saying them. When she didn't reply, I knew something had gone wrong.(I had missed the opener question that's what had gone wrong, I think). So, not knowing what to do, I started patting the dog's head again and at least the dog seemed happy. Then all of a sudden, she said "you shouldn't probably go near him." I jerked behind, "Does he bite?" the words came out of my mouth. "No" she said, nodding her head. At this point, something snapped inside me. I just smiled goodbye to her and she smiled back(out of politeness, I guess) and then I turned around and walked away... Things I learned: 1) I have to become a good conversationalist. I seldom talk to anyone. I have to make an effort to make conversations longer. So I'll pick people around me and start talking to them as much as I can. 2) I have a very long way to go. Any feedbacks (positive or negative) will be appreciated. While giving negative feedbacks, please make it a point to say something constructive also. Thank you. |
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| Author: | J.Daniels [ Sat May 09, 2015 11:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Day 1 |
Believe it or not, you fucking crushed it. Good job. However: 1. Don't worry what your opener is. Seriously, you could even test a ridiculous opener like "Don't you just hate public transport?" at an inappropriate moment, it'll work as well as most other openers. 2. Don't justify every interaction that doesn't go amazingly. You can't put your finger on what went wrong. 3. Keep taking action; you're doing well. |
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| Author: | Tan5456K [ Sun May 10, 2015 1:26 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Day 1 |
Thank you very much. I really needed some words from someone. And as you said, I will keep going. I will keep your tips in mind. |
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