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Author:  kidcruisin [ Tue Jan 13, 2015 1:23 am ]
Post subject:  New and some advice needed
33 Frustrated chump (admittedly) who is looking to get back into dating. Confidence is at an all time low, looking to help get some of it back. Been going to the gym 5x times a week lately and that's been helping.

Met this girl the other night for a couple drinks. We had texted and talked on the phone a few days before, and she wanted to meet. Had initiated contact with her online.

So we met on Thursday and it went pretty well, kinda awkward at first but we sat, drank and talked for two hours. She gave me a kiss on the cheek goodnite, and then we kissed a couple times before she took off. She said she wanted to hang next week and I was down. She texted me to let me know that she got home alright, and we said a few things before heading off to bed. During that exchange she said she wanted to hang again next week.

Texted her good morning the next day, as was par for the course with our exchanges leading up to meeting. She got back right away and I told her that I was late to work and that I'd text her later.

And I haven't heard back since. I texted Friday afternoon to see how her day was, nothing. I let Saturday go by until Sunday mid-day before trying her. Texted that I knew she was busy, that I hoped she was doing well and that I wanted to see her again, too. Still nothing back.

So here it is, Monday night. No idea what to do, no idea how to get back into the game. I know I'm making mistakes left and fucking right with her but I'm not sure why she dropped off the planet. I know anything else after my text from yesterday is desperate. Lost cause?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jan 13, 2015 6:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New and some advice needed
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Been going to the gym 5x times a week lately and that's been helping.
Wonderful. Best place to start.
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So we met on Thursday and it went pretty well, kinda awkward at first but we sat, drank and talked for two hours. She gave me a kiss on the cheek goodnite, and then we kissed a couple times before she took off. She said she wanted to hang next week and I was down. She texted me to let me know that she got home alright, and we said a few things before heading off to bed. During that exchange she said she wanted to hang again next week.

Texted her good morning the next day, as was par for the course with our exchanges leading up to meeting. She got back right away and I told her that I was late to work and that I'd text her later.

And I haven't heard back since. I texted Friday afternoon to see how her day was, nothing. I let Saturday go by until Sunday mid-day before trying her. Texted that I knew she was busy, that I hoped she was doing well and that I wanted to see her again, too. Still nothing back.
Doesn't look like you escalated much. She simply got bored.

Your lack of confidence showed, she lost interest.

Do not re-contact, the ball is in her court.

Women have plenty of options for desperate pusswads they seem to try 'em on like shoes and toss them away.

Don't be a shoe. Be a cocky, bold thigh high pair of boots!

Don't delete her number, but pursue lots of new women ASAP.

Michael Jordan didn't make the three pointer 1st try. But he kept fucking trying.
Author:  detox75 [ Tue Jan 13, 2015 7:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New and some advice needed
Everything Heywood said is correct but lets back up and look at the big big big picture.

So the first thing I would is start reading some basic PUA books because you are making complete noobie mistakes.

You know how I know someone is new to pickup? When the first thing they do is start talking about working out and dressing better.
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Texted her good morning the next day, as was par for the course with our exchanges leading up to meeting. She got back right away and I told her that I was late to work and that I'd text her later.

And I haven't heard back since. I texted Friday afternoon to see how her day was, nothing. I let Saturday go by until Sunday mid-day before trying her. Texted that I knew she was busy, that I hoped she was doing well and that I wanted to see her again, too. Still nothing back.
Your way too thirsty and trying way too hard - girls find that super unattractive. I remember a PUA pro once said "whether you have a great date or a bad one the best thing you can do it rip up the girls number after the date." When you understand why that makes sense then you have made progress.

Finally your biggest problem is your scarcity mentality. You need to be hitting on and going out with as many chicks as possible. Get on every online dating site you can, hit on every hot girl you see, start working your social circle, and read pua material in books and on this website. You need more dates and more options, this by default, rather then by having any decent game per se, will stop you from seeming desperate and over invested in girls you barely know who haven't had any time to asses your value other then to see that you seem desperate and thirsty.

Sorry if that was harsh but that's what I do around here
Author:  yovanymunoz [ Wed Jan 14, 2015 12:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New and some advice needed
She just flaked and michael jordan cant shoot threes. Also no girl has ever flaked on me before they just dont talk to me.
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