Hello.

I am new to this forum. I am now in my forties, and have discovered PUA some years ago. It helped me a lot at the time and moved me to get over a long period of being single, lonely and depressed. Eventually I got a number of girlfriends, a couple of them lasted a couple of years. Thus I stopped being involved with the community.

I see myself as a beginner. In the first time I came I focused into taking away some obvious vice I had that were stopping relationships from happening. Now I am at the point where "in summer" at a "meditation camp" I can consistently have a relationship happening. I know this is kids game, but this is where I am and we should look reality into its ugly face. In winter it is always difficult for me. I dislike going out. Hate bars and pubs. I am the intellectual guy who much prefer hitting on girls by starting an intelligent conversation in a library of a bookstore.

My main sticking point right now is how to move from meeting someone interesting at an event, and meeting up again. And how to escalate to sex without using massage. RIght now I consistently use massage (I am actually quite a good masseur) to escalate, but I feel this is starting to be too much used around and women know too well what's going to happen.

By the way, I live in Europe and I am constantly travelling. Each week in a different nation for work. So being able to be quick in making things happen is a necessity if I want to have sex with anyone else apart my hand or the masseur down the road.

I will add that once I have sex once with a woman, it is VERY easy to have the relationship escalate to full blown relationship. They want it more than I do.

In any case for a first message this is probably enough. Happy to make your acquaintance.

welcome to the community, great knowledge here from great people

bars and clubs are a great place to go out to meet people, i would learn to love it because you can get great practice in.

if your sticking point is meeting back up with people the problem is typically how you are getting their number. usually its because you just ask for the number and then from there you schedule for a date. what people should do is schedule for the date and use the date as a logistical reason to get her phone number.