PUA Forum :: Hello from NYC, and Would my Wife Be an Effective Wingman?

Thanks for the advice guys. Will take it to heart.

Life PUA, you're 100% right. We kind of fell into a rut of what worked. I would do the legwork, but as soon as communication began, my wife would take over. I always felt like she was waaay more disarming that I was. All I could think about was closing, and she was much more tranquilo than I was. I'd jump back into the game once the girl agreed to go out for drinks or dinner.

I'd usually be the one to suggest going back to our place after dinner since my wife is the opposite of aggressive. If we got to this point, I noticed our chances of success was almost 100%.

At the apartment, I'd suggest some smoke and/or cocktails, and I'd leave the two women in the living room. My wife would always eventually kiss close and sometimes more, so by the time I came back with the cocktails we were ready to start. Again, I think the women would usually sense my anticipation, so I learned to make myself scarce doing something like making cocktails or getting food for everyone.

OTOH, I always felt a little frustrated that my wife wasn't aggressive enough, but then again, maybe that's the secret to our magic. I probably need to be less eager / have less anticipation / desire. My wife probably needs to learn how to be less passive in getting what she wants.

It'll be interesting to see how this unfolds. I feel like a whole vista might be opening for us. Very exciting stuff. I'm really glad to have found you guys and this site!

Author:	ConnorNYC [ Sun Sep 07, 2014 9:46 pm ]
Post subject:	Hello from NYC, and Would my Wife Be an Effective Wingman?
Just stumbled across The Game about a week ago. Fascinating. That lead me to look into the writings and videos of Mystery, Gambler, and even David X. Wow. I never knew that getting chicks was a science, but in hindsight, why not? All social interactions can be quantified as people meeting each others needs. Even marriage is based on that. Anywho, I have a somewhat interesting situation. My wife and I live in NYC. We also travel a LOT. Both for my business trips where she accompanies me, and on vacation. We love going to foreign countries and different states. My wife also happens to be bisexual. She goes head-over-heels for feminine / girlie girl types of women. She loves and fantasizes about women just as much as any guy does. That has opened up some ... interesting situations for us. We've had close to 20 threesomes in our 9 year marriage. Enough that neither one of us can remember most of their names or faces. Finding women has always been kind of difficult, but we've managed to score quite a bit, considering neither one of us knows the first thing about picking up women. Most of the women were low quality pickups from Craigslist. A couple were met the "old fashioned way", and they were definitely much, much, much higher quality. So now I'm reading that there's guys who make a science out of this. I've done a bit of reading. A lot of it makes sense. Some of it appears contradictory. But as they say, there are many roads to Nirvana. My question is. Would PUA techniques work for someone in my situation? A lot of what Mystery talks about is based in genetics. Same for Style. Although my wife would love it if we found a third chick to form a permanent triad with, there doesn't seem to be a strong evolutionary or genetic basis for a woman wanting a triad, let alone a threesome. So question 1 is -- would PUA techniques work for a couple sarging together? Next, would she be an effective wing "man" given that we always share all our women? That is, we'd be picking up women for both of us. And lastly -- how exactly do I start? I've read a little, and I know a little bit about PUA techniques. I hate clubs and bars. I'm not an extrovert. I can't go up to a group of women. At least, not just yet. To be honest, daygame sounds less scary than nightgame. I feel like personal coaching might be a good way to start, but I've seen rates for private coaching. Five thousand for a weekend is not realistic. Generally, I'm not fond of NYC, but one thing that NYC is good for is that there's one of everything here. Probably two. I'm sure there must be a reasonably priced instructor. How do I find him and how do I know his level of skill? If you've made it down this far, I salute you!

Author:	LIFE PUA [ Mon Sep 08, 2014 1:57 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Hello from NYC, and Would my Wife Be an Effective Wingma
The Evolution talk is hypothetical posturing to explain why this stuff works to new guys, do not be afraid. Da is right, Chief is know for helping introverts, he would be great to learn from. In my opinion, your wife is an INCREDIBLE wing woman. She can disarm any woman and group far more easily than you and also she can escalate her in ways you cant in public. Plus she can AMOG guys easily. If she is just bold and flirts she is a built in advantage. My advice, go out with your wife and have her start to hit on girls. Destination is not the bedroom, just feel out the dynamic. The goal is for her to escalate and build a conspiracy, of her and the other girl seducing you. You Game like normal to Attract and build Investment, and your wife handles logistics and builds the 'us' dynamic. This would be a quick way to get it to work.

Author:	ConnorNYC [ Mon Sep 08, 2014 4:08 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Hello from NYC, and Would my Wife Be an Effective Wingma
Thanks for the advice guys. Will take it to heart. Life PUA, you're 100% right. We kind of fell into a rut of what worked. I would do the legwork, but as soon as communication began, my wife would take over. I always felt like she was waaay more disarming that I was. All I could think about was closing, and she was much more tranquilo than I was. I'd jump back into the game once the girl agreed to go out for drinks or dinner. I'd usually be the one to suggest going back to our place after dinner since my wife is the opposite of aggressive. If we got to this point, I noticed our chances of success was almost 100%. At the apartment, I'd suggest some smoke and/or cocktails, and I'd leave the two women in the living room. My wife would always eventually kiss close and sometimes more, so by the time I came back with the cocktails we were ready to start. Again, I think the women would usually sense my anticipation, so I learned to make myself scarce doing something like making cocktails or getting food for everyone. OTOH, I always felt a little frustrated that my wife wasn't aggressive enough, but then again, maybe that's the secret to our magic. I probably need to be less eager / have less anticipation / desire. My wife probably needs to learn how to be less passive in getting what she wants. It'll be interesting to see how this unfolds. I feel like a whole vista might be opening for us. Very exciting stuff. I'm really glad to have found you guys and this site!

Author:	LIFE PUA [ Mon Sep 08, 2014 5:39 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Hello from NYC, and Would my Wife Be an Effective Wingma
Quote: Thanks for the advice guys. Will take it to heart. Life PUA, you're 100% right. We kind of fell into a rut of what worked. I would do the legwork, but as soon as communication began, my wife would take over. I always felt like she was waaay more disarming that I was. All I could think about was closing, and she was much more tranquilo than I was. I'd jump back into the game once the girl agreed to go out for drinks or dinner. I'd usually be the one to suggest going back to our place after dinner since my wife is the opposite of aggressive. If we got to this point, I noticed our chances of success was almost 100%. At the apartment, I'd suggest some smoke and/or cocktails, and I'd leave the two women in the living room. My wife would always eventually kiss close and sometimes more, so by the time I came back with the cocktails we were ready to start. Again, I think the women would usually sense my anticipation, so I learned to make myself scarce doing something like making cocktails or getting food for everyone. OTOH, I always felt a little frustrated that my wife wasn't aggressive enough, but then again, maybe that's the secret to our magic. I probably need to be less eager / have less anticipation / desire. My wife probably needs to learn how to be less passive in getting what she wants. It'll be interesting to see how this unfolds. I feel like a whole vista might be opening for us. Very exciting stuff. I'm really glad to have found you guys and this site! I think the bridge of 'I don't care if I get this thing to work out' is a hard one to cross. I like what you do. Its good. If you already can get them back to your place, play it cool. Your job is to steer and let your wife work. You are an incidental bystander in what will unfold. You will be surprised how well playing aloof works.

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