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| Author: | Biscuits [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 11:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | The life and times of Biscuits |
Hey guys, This is all pretty new to me so I guess I'll just write a bit about myself and take it from there. My names not really Biscuits, I just figured I needed something to go by so there you go. I'm 21 years old and I live in Edinburgh, Scotland. I wouldn't say I'm the worst case scenario I've seen on here, I've kissed a reasonable amount of girls and I've had sex a few times (definitely not as much as I'd like). I work out, although I'm not really that big but I look like I'm in good shape. I have plenty friends and a few close female friends included. I dress well and am not scared to be a little bit out there in what I wear. I'm really unsure what to think of my looks as some days I think I look good looking then the next day I wonder how I ever got with a girl in the first place, but in general I'd say I'm not a bad looking guy in the right circumstances. My postures fine, I'm working on it because I want to appear more alpha and confident but you wouldn't look at me and think I was cripplingly shy or anything. My problem is, I feel really stuck at this level. When I was young I was a bit of an outcast. I've made a lot of progress in that sense, but it's always left me with this annoying self consciousness that even when it's a close friend I'm never really sure whether I'm annoying them by talking to them or whatever, so with girls this is usually double so. Whenever I'm interested in a girl or trying to pull a girl, all I do is overthink and most of the time my brain comes to the conclusion that she's bored of me and doesn't want me there anymore, which is usually how I'm feeling anyway because I'm just not having fun with it when I'm so self conscious. Most of the girls I've pulled are girls I didn't really care about impressing, they were attractive enough to kiss but they were nothing to write home about. I just think that whenever it's a girl I find really attractive that she is automatically not attracted to me. Which I know is stupid and I can sometimes force my way through it and chat to them anyway, but I feel like I just come across as dull and fake, I can't be myself, or funny. I've been reading The Game and decided I should take some action but I have some sort of mental block when it comes to starting these openers and patterns and stuff, I know that if I just believed I could do this stuff and believed I could get an attractive girl, that I could do it. I want nothing more than to have that confidence, and not to care so much about what people think, but I just can't seem to do it. I've tried it on my own and it's only gotten me so far, so I'm hoping I can smash through this phase and just start to have fun with it rather than overthinking every little thing and having it ruin my social life. Having someone take me under their wing or something would be pretty cool, I feel like having someone who knows what my situation is at a given time would be the best way for me. Anyway, anything you guys have to offer would be much obliged. Chow, Biscuits. |
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| Author: | Chief [ Wed Aug 13, 2014 7:44 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The life and times of Biscuits |
First of all, welcome! I'm a senior moderator here and you can PM me if you ever have any questions or issues with the forum. I'm also a pickup coach so I'll help you out with some points here: Quote: I work out, although I'm not really that big but I look like I'm in good shape. I have plenty friends and a few close female friends included. I dress well and am not scared to be a little bit out there in what I wear. I'm really unsure what to think of my looks as some days I think I look good looking then the next day I wonder how I ever got with a girl in the first place, but in general I'd say I'm not a bad looking guy in the right circumstances. My postures fine, I'm working on it because I want to appear more alpha and confident but you wouldn't look at me and think I was cripplingly shy or anything.
That's great and all but you seem to be placing too much importance in looks. Looks count, but they really don't matter as much as we think. Skills are much much more important.
Quote: My problem is, I feel really stuck at this level. When I was young I was a bit of an outcast. I've made a lot of progress in that sense, but it's always left me with this annoying self consciousness that even when it's a close friend I'm never really sure whether I'm annoying them by talking to them or whatever, so with girls this is usually double so. Whenever I'm interested in a girl or trying to pull a girl, all I do is overthink and most of the time my brain comes to the conclusion that she's bored of me and doesn't want me there anymore, which is usually how I'm feeling anyway because I'm just not having fun with it when I'm so self conscious. Most of the girls I've pulled are girls I didn't really care about impressing, they were attractive enough to kiss but they were nothing to write home about. I just think that whenever it's a girl I find really attractive that she is automatically not attracted to me. Which I know is stupid and I can sometimes force my way through it and chat to them anyway, but I feel like I just come across as dull and fake, I can't be myself, or funny.
Stop right there. That book is a huge proponent on the Mystery Method, which is shit for your Inner Game.I've been reading The Game and And you need to develop Inner Game a lot here, my friend. To start you off with a simple exercise, come up with a short list of reasons why you are attractive, or why any woman would be lucky to date you. Let this list grow over time by adding something to the list whenever you think of something. Over time your brain will replace the negative belief that attractive women aren't attracted to you with the new positive one that any woman would be attracted to you. Quote: decided I should take some action but I have some sort of mental block when it comes to starting these openers and patterns and stuff,
Those fancy openers and scripted patterns are giving you a mental block because deep down inside you know they don't sit right with you.That's because those weird opinion openers and scripts are totally lame. Seduction isn't an indirect, scripted game. If you want a better place to start, check out more of my stuff here: post870457.html |
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