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Author:  Anoni [ Thu Jul 31, 2014 9:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Here is some female advice

I'm a woman and I'm a feminist. Now before you stoned me to death let me declare my motives. I'm here to read, digest, learn your perspective and share mine. It is easy to jump the gun and judge a group of people based on rumours, misconceptions and even lies when we don't take the time to actually experience their community. As in any group I'm aware that there will be individuals who are extreme and do not necessarily represent the whole community.

It is most likely that my advice won't help you pick up girls and that is not my goal either. To put it bluntly my goal is to make you a better man by helping you consider a broader range of perspectives and to cultivate respect toward women. Obviously you don't have to agree with me but for those who are genuinely looking for self-improvement having a talk with "the enemy" can only help. Thank you for reading and I look forward to some real discussions.

Author:  blah1982 [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 12:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

Welcome and thanks for posting, but...

Where is the advice? ( :?: )

Author:  GamesSN [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 12:19 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

There's actually a few feminists on the forums who come to learn and understand pick up and why men turn to it.

I find it ironic that you would speak about jumping the gun and judging people based on rumours and misconceptions when you suggest you're here to teach us alternative ways to woo women "and treat them with respect" as if we do not respect women or even try to. It's a huge misinterpretation by many women that pick up is disrespectful towards them when it couldn't be any more different. If you follow pick up most of the mature PUAs will try preach respect towards women it's more the newbies who come to use the tools of PU in hopes of wooing any woman and "flick that magic switch so they can't say no" who are disrespectful and they are specific people in it for specific reasons(As much sex as possible).

Truth is a lot of the people who come here do so in order to have a girlfriend or change themselves so they can get the girl, in most cases, they want to be with and love not simply fuck. In other instances people simply want to improve their repertoire with women in order to improve themselves and have the kind of woman they want and they deserve(Men deserve a quality woman just as women deserve a quality man). In the relationship section you'll have many posts of men who are in relationships but feel it's falling apart and ask how to fix it or how they can change to higher their value in order to get respect that was lost from their partner to reignite interest. In this you'll find that the only advice people give is to work on yourself, work out, not obsess over the girl(give her and yourself space), meanwhile improve yourself both physically and mentally. The majority of the time this improves peoples relationships and helps turn it around.

Of course, Pick Up is a tool and a tool can be manipulated by it's master however you'll find very few using these tools to openly manipulate and harm women and, at least on these forums, if techniques are used to have a negative impact on the target it will be widely slammed by the greater community as it's more than frowned upon.

Suffice to say you should look into pick up, it's beliefs and the types of people who use it. You'll find it doesn't warrant all the hate. So, forget the old saying "Don't hate the player, hate the game" and learn to think "Hate the player, not the game" if the player warrants it.

Author:  Anoni [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 4:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

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Welcome and thanks for posting, but...

Where is the advice? ( :?: )

LOL Sorry I noticed a trend in the forums (lot of unanswered/unread posts) so I thought that would be a catchy title.

Author:  Anoni [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 5:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

Hey thanks for the reply. I am definitely not here to teach alternative ways to woo women. I even said "It is most likely that my advice won't help you pick up girls and that is not my goal either." Reading again my post, the part of "making you a better man" comes across a bit diminishing which wasn't my intention. I own up to my mistakes and for that I'm sorry.

What I'm trying to say is that as a woman I will pick up on things that some men may see as normal but most likely many other women might find disrespectful (and let's be real I've seen my share already on these forums). My advice will be directed towards self-improvement and not pick-up, though that might be an unintended consequence. Kinda like combining what you learn here from other men and adding to that qualities that will make you, in PUA lingo, a HB10. I will absolutely stick around to learn more and I hope you (PUA members) will learn some things too.
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There's actually a few feminists on the forums who come to learn and understand pick up and why men turn to it.

I find it ironic that you would speak about jumping the gun and judging people based on rumours and misconceptions when you suggest you're here to teach us alternative ways to woo women "and treat them with respect" as if we do not respect women or even try to. It's a huge misinterpretation by many women that pick up is disrespectful towards them when it couldn't be any more different. If you follow pick up most of the mature PUAs will try preach respect towards women it's more the newbies who come to use the tools of PU in hopes of wooing any woman and "flick that magic switch so they can't say no" who are disrespectful and they are specific people in it for specific reasons(As much sex as possible).

Truth is a lot of the people who come here do so in order to have a girlfriend or change themselves so they can get the girl, in most cases, they want to be with and love not simply fuck. In other instances people simply want to improve their repertoire with women in order to improve themselves and have the kind of woman they want and they deserve(Men deserve a quality woman just as women deserve a quality man). In the relationship section you'll have many posts of men who are in relationships but feel it's falling apart and ask how to fix it or how they can change to higher their value in order to get respect that was lost from their partner to reignite interest. In this you'll find that the only advice people give is to work on yourself, work out, not obsess over the girl(give her and yourself space), meanwhile improve yourself both physically and mentally. The majority of the time this improves peoples relationships and helps turn it around.

Of course, Pick Up is a tool and a tool can be manipulated by it's master however you'll find very few using these tools to openly manipulate and harm women and, at least on these forums, if techniques are used to have a negative impact on the target it will be widely slammed by the greater community as it's more than frowned upon.

Suffice to say you should look into pick up, it's beliefs and the types of people who use it. You'll find it doesn't warrant all the hate. So, forget the old saying "Don't hate the player, hate the game" and learn to think "Hate the player, not the game" if the player warrants it.

Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 1:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

What's your point OP? Everything is so vague.

What exactly do you want to get from this thread, hmm? Would you like to discuss: "How to properly respect women?"

I'll start.

Women are not objects. They are human. They have clitorises that harden and vaginas that get wet. They feel sexually aroused too like men. To properly respect women, men should learn to sexually escalate skilfully so women are treated as human beings and not as inanimate objects of desire.

Your turn.

Author:  Playboi_ [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 3:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

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What's your point OP? Everything is so vague.

What exactly do you want to get from this thread, hmm? Would you like to discuss: "How to properly respect women?"

I'll start.

Women are not objects. They are human. They have clitorises that harden and vaginas that get wet. They feel sexually aroused too like men. To properly respect women, men should learn to sexually escalate skilfully so women are treated as human beings and not as inanimate objects of desire.

Your turn.
Awesome haha
How can this thread not go south, very fast?

Author:  SamEdi [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 10:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

Welcome to the forum Anoni. I get and appreciate what you're trying to do, but I invite you to put yourself in our shoes for a second.

Most of us (all of us?) have female friends. And most of us have, at some point, also been friend-zoned by women we were attracted to.

Now, speaking only for myself here, these women have told me innumerable times what they are looking for in men; usually, they describe me to a T. However, each one always has an excellent reason why I'm not the person they're with. They also always have a great reason that they stay with the guy that's mistreating them so much. The same guy they wish could be more like me. The guy, who in all actuality is the complete opposite of me.

So I started to get the nagging suspicion one day that women might actually be saying they want one thing, but actually want another. Or perhaps, they may not even be aware of what they truly want. (By the way, this is true of men too.)

This is why I'm on this forum today. I'm learning from men who are successful with women. I want to know what they've figured out. Ultimately, I'm willing to bet I'll have more success with their advice than with the advice I've gotten from the fairer sex.

I hope you take my comments in the spirit that they were given and not as a personal attack.

Cheers.

Author:  In$tinct [ Sat Aug 02, 2014 8:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

This forum is about improving your personality, and improving the way you present it. Sure, it has some darker parts too, but it's all business. If you tell a bunch of virgin losers: "I will teach you how to use covert hypnosis on women", money is bound to come(keep note, I'm not bashing on NLP, I'm bashing on RJ and his little cult).

Most of the forum members are here to either learn, or help. There are some exceptions, mostly butthurt/bipolar(Digital_Spy) and some keyboard jockeys but most people here are actually very friendly and also, respectful to women.

Have you ever WANTED to be with a really nice guy, but couldn't because you didn't perceive him as an attractive male? Being able to sexually pleasure women is a gift. It's a gift that many men didn't recieve, hence they seek it on forums like this one.

Ever had an overly jealous, control-freak boyfriend? Had he come here for advice, we would have told him to cut the BS and man up.

Has there been a guy that you fancied, and you knew he was into you, but he just never initiated? We would have persuaded him that he had got nothing to lose and would have helped him trying our bests.

I hope you now understand that the same way as feminism is supposed to benefit both men and women, this forum, besides for men, has some plus sides for women too.

Peace,

In$tinct

Author:  Anoni [ Sat Aug 02, 2014 6:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

SamEdi & In$tinct,

I appreciate the kind tone and respect on your reply. I know there's truth in your words. I have been in the "friendzone" and also in the position of breaking up cause "things aren't the same" (I will share the story in a new post). I support any person who try to self-improve and is something I try to do with my life.

Hellhound,

I was introducing myself and sharing my reasons to join.

"To properly respect women, men should learn to sexually escalate skilfully so women are treated as human beings and not as inanimate objects of desire." Yes, consensual sex and seduction are part of it but respect goes beyond the realm of sex. I will assume you know this. Thank you for your reply.

Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Mon Aug 04, 2014 3:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

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Yes, consensual sex and seduction are part of it but respect goes beyond the realm of sex. I will assume you know this. Thank you for your reply.
I'm not a mind reader. I don't do crystal balls either. Can you please itemize your ideas of respectful behavior from the point of view of a feminist?

When discussing ideas, the men on here focus on ideas. Unfortunately, several feminist on here start calling us men dumb cunts, idiots, mentally ill and what have you.

Men's idea of respect might be very different from a feminist's idea of respect. Care to elaborate further on what behavior you deem as respectful?

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Aug 04, 2014 5:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

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(and let's be real I've seen my share already on these forums). My advice will be directed towards self-improvement

Let's BE real then, outside the forums. REAL LIFE. What self improvement 'tips' do you have in in your little 'tip' jar?

Are you single?
Where do you turn when your horny?
How many ONS have you had?
What's the 1st thing you do after sex? Turn on the dome light?
Do you wear you hair short?
Do you ever wear clothes-makeup-scents, geared toward attracting a man?

Author:  Anoni [ Mon Aug 04, 2014 8:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

Heywood Jayblowme,

"It is most likely that my advice won't help you pick up girls and that is not my goal either."

Self-improvement isn't a code word for sex tips. Self-improvement isn't limited to sexuality and I will not add to that topic. Real life advice can also help you deal with other things like anger, self-control and critical thinking. I'll share my advice as any other member of this forum, on a new topic or as a reply to a pertinent thread since this one was meant to be an introduction. I understand that the title of this thread is confusing but I already explained my reasoning for that to another user on this same thread. To avoid confusions I will not make the same mistake again in the future.

Hellhound,

I believe the title of my topic is the cause behind this misunderstanding. You've been trying to get me to be specific about respect, after all this thread is called "Here is some female advice", yet there's no advice. I haven't been specific because even though the title is misleading, the original post was meant to be an introduction. While I will not get on specifics on this thread regarding the idea of respect I will make an observation concerning your replies to me. I picked up a condescending tone since your first reply. I will not make assumption about why you respond that way because looking back I feel the wording on my first post wasn't the best and it could have trigger your reaction. Maybe you didn't even notice your tone.

However speaking on general terms being condescending is disrespectful especially toward strangers. It can be based on assumptions related to gender inequality. I am not saying this is your case but it is a worthy example of how the idea of respect goes beyond the realm of sex. I hope you don't take this as a personal attack. I don't wish to be in hostile terms with you or anyone else.

Author:  In$tinct [ Mon Aug 04, 2014 9:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

Before massive flamewar starts here, I think I will jump in to clear up the misunderstandings from both sides.

@Anoni: Hellhound's and Heywood's problem is that you keep talking about this vague concept of "respect towards women" but you didn't give any sign whatsoever of what exactly do you mean. Keep in mind that we are quite used to feminists attacking us for "manipulating and putting down women" and whatever else BS they come up with. We do appreciate that you are here and willing to learn about us, and even help us in some aspects, but also keep in mind that this is still a pick-up forum. Yes we do work with self improvement also, but this is not Upworthy.com where we shame ourselves for having a dick between our legs.

@Hellhound and Heywood: I don't think your tone will help the case and make her explain herself better. If all you keep talking about is sex it would seem like to her that you're not trying to get to know her point, rather you're trying to pick her up. If you reframed your question and dropped the massive sarcasm she just might have already dropped her two cents here.

@Anoni: I'm curious about your views of respect because as Hellhound has pointed out, your views might be quite different from ours.

Peace,

In$tinct

Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Wed Aug 06, 2014 1:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Here is some female advice

What's the purpose of this thread? Seriously?

You posted this in the approaching & openers section.... yet all you did was give a vague introduction about yourself?


First if you want to give men advice you should at least post the thread in the right section... there's an "introduce yourself" section on this msg board.

Second... what the hell is your purpose? You've made quite a few posts in this thread with absolutely no useful content what-so-ever.

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