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Author:  taz22 [ Thu Jun 05, 2014 4:21 am ]
Post subject:  New guy on the forum looking for advice
Whats up everyone, I recently got out of the Military[ was in Army for 3 years] 22 year of age and currently going to college as a mechanic. always had a problem with picking up hot,single or actually interesting women. Always got the sluts or the married ones... I'm always nervous around good looking women or i have no idea what to say, either because im nervous if they would think im a dick or was it the right timing and basically everything needs worked on. I was told by a few women i was handsome and all that but most of them were probably being nice. I have a sense of humor that seems to work on some but i hold back alot because i dont want them thinking bad of me[first impressions]. any tips and advice or would be helpful and any pointers for getting over nervousness around good looking woman. Thanks everyone and im looking forward to learning.
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Jun 05, 2014 5:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New guy on the forum looking for advice
I would start with something simple and that is to work to change the current beliefs you have about yourself.

For example: Changing your self-talk about yourself can really be a good step 1.
Quote:
I'm always nervous around good looking women
Rephrase this to tell yourself the opposite of what you wrote. I.e. "I have the right to be and I am becoming more and more confident and smooth around the hottest women."
Quote:
I was told by a few women i was handsome and all that but most of them were probably being nice.
Rephrase this to something like "I was told by a few women i was handsome and all that because it's true. In fact, I am and am becoming a guy who women practically salivate over."

Tell yourself these things every day when you wake up and before you go to sleep and also during the day. Eventually you might find yourself feeling like you are comfortable with making innocuous comment to a woman when you see her (even something like, "what time is it") to get the ball rolling in the direction of eventually doing full pickups.
Author:  Mastermind9000 [ Thu Jun 05, 2014 6:54 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New guy on the forum looking for advice
I took up cold approach because I was nervous ALL THE TIME, with EVERYONE. I couldn't talk to anyone in public. Seriously, if I said more than "Tall coffee" and "thanks" at starbucks that was a good day, one in a million.

Just keep cold approaching pal. That shit is a magic pill. My anxiety comes and goes, but the set of brass balls I have compared to a normal person, let alone my old self is truly staggering and something I am personally very, very proud of.

Nervous talking to attractive girls? How about after talking to 100 hundred of them? Likely to be a bit better I guess! :)

Watch lots of PUA videos on Youtube and keep at it. It only gets better. And if you get nervous and choke... shit happens. Look for getting less nervous over time; look for those times you started moving towards a girl as reflex. You will soon surprise yourself and those who know you. That is progress, and that is the point.
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