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| Author: | FaceAche [ Mon Mar 17, 2014 4:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Fairly new to pick-up. Any quick tips? |
I first approached a girl months ago and have not done it since. So, I am really knew to this. Since the weather is breaking into the spring/summer, I want to get my anus out there. So any quick tips? |
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| Author: | n00bpua123 [ Mon Mar 17, 2014 8:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fairly new to pick-up. Any quick tips? |
Since you've only approached 1 girl in months, your first objective is to handle approach anxiety. That's really a tough thing to handle. For me I had to make a mental click in my mind. From there on I read stuff on how to not give a shit, which really helped me further. |
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| Author: | FaceAche [ Tue Mar 18, 2014 11:43 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fairly new to pick-up. Any quick tips? |
Quote: Since you've only approached 1 girl in months, your first objective is to handle approach anxiety. That's really a tough thing to handle. For me I had to make a mental click in my mind. From there on I read stuff on how to not give a shit, which really helped me further.
What do you mean by the mental click in your mind? I have read so much about all the stuff about approach anxiety and not giving a shit which helped me to pick-up that girl in the first place but then I lost it after awhile.
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| Author: | mmonsturr [ Tue Mar 18, 2014 10:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fairly new to pick-up. Any quick tips? |
What helps me is to not think and just do it. Sometimes counting to three helps or saying Fuck it in your head and diving in. I'm not sure how to explain it exactly but its like a decision in your head. Its like this I'm scared of needles right? Like deathly afraid, I freeze up, my heart pumps really fast, I start sweating realy bad. But in my line of work I have to get shots all the time. I found that even tho I'm nervous as hell and part if me wants to bolt as soon as I get anywhere near a needle that if I just breathe and except that its a neccessity, most of the fear is repressed and replaced with determination. Its something I have to do so I do it. Its the same with girls. If you don't approach them your going to be stuck in the same state, depresse, lonely, and frustrated. So if you look at it like the expirience is a necessity for your emotional and mental health then out of survival you should be able to mentaly plunge. You see? Just tell yourself that its a necessity. Focus on it if you have to think about something make it that. But its easier if your not thinking about anything and you just do it. |
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| Author: | H-Two-O [ Wed Mar 19, 2014 11:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fairly new to pick-up. Any quick tips? |
Yes, Im not a PUA expert but I have some humble tips to share: 1- Deploy Nike's motto "Just Do It" Do it and never ever what so ever judge and "evaluate" the out come or the result or how you looked like or how you did. Even if you were as weirdo as crap and she slapped you on the face. Just Do it and you will find the way. Praise your self that you did take that chance. Trust me even if the girl slaps you you would still feel much better than the regret you get for not approaching her. 2-Put your self into the mood to approach start smiling to almost everyone. Start by having a quick chat with the barista at the cafe for example or the hot sales person. Ask for directions, then make compliments (genuinly). Just complement and leave by saying something like "Have a nice day" or "it was nice to meet you, have a nice day" you need nothing more out of it other than complementing er and making her day. 3- Escalate things a bit. From just asking for directions or complementing start by having a quick chat. key tip is to avoid (YES/NO) questions. Use WH questions instead. I hope that helps..Cheers |
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| Author: | metomeya [ Fri Mar 21, 2014 12:41 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fairly new to pick-up. Any quick tips? |
Find a buddy to do it with. Ask on the forums. |
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| Author: | FaceAche [ Fri Mar 21, 2014 7:07 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fairly new to pick-up. Any quick tips? |
Quote: Find a buddy to do it with. Ask on the forums.
I have asked a close friend and he seems up for it; but the thing is, I think he has a lot more approach anxiety than me, he is literally scared to do it. What do I need to do in this situation?
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| Author: | H-Two-O [ Wed Mar 26, 2014 11:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fairly new to pick-up. Any quick tips? |
Quote: Quote: Find a buddy to do it with. Ask on the forums.
I have asked a close friend and he seems up for it; but the thing is, I think he has a lot more approach anxiety than me, he is literally scared to do it. What do I need to do in this situation?They would propably drag you ack rather than push you, the last thing you ever need. Pack up with other guys who are willing to game or go out Lone Wolfing style. No pain, No gain. You want girlfriends then you gotta sacrifiy at least a tiny bit of your male friends share. I gotta remind my self with that advice all the time. |
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