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Author:  decius [ Sat Nov 17, 2012 4:38 am ]
Post subject:  Extreme approach anxiety
Hey guys, I'm new to the PUA scene. Im 6'0" 175 pounds athletic frame with the six pack and whole nine yards, but whatever that doesn't matter. I know I am an above average guy on looks but still have a really hard time approaching attractive women. I mean once I get in a conversation I can show my charm and humour and the girls are attracted to me. But the problem is approaching a 8-10 without an anxiety; I know the mystery 3 second rule but just can't bring my self to make the approach. I feel that I feel the concept of rejection more than actually getting rejected. I notice women checking me out at the bar, smiling at me but I seem to always fuck it up by not making an approach quickly enough and it comes off creepy afterwards.

From what I have been reading it seems like my main issue is my self-confidence, if you guys have any tips to improving my confidence it would be apprieciated immensely. I started working out a few years ago and it has helped a lot but i still have that little voice in the back of my head all the time that thinks everyone is always criticizing every little thing I do.

Thanks in advance for the help. (ignore the few spelling errors.)
Author:  VioletaRockos [ Sun Nov 18, 2012 1:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Extreme approach anxiety
Hi, decius,
One thing that helps: remind yourself, what's the worst possible outcome if you try to approach her? She's not interested. Is that so bad? It's not the outcome you're hoping for, but it's not serious either. The more you approach, the more you'll succeed with.
Another thing is to visualize successful outcomes. That shouldn't be hard, since you know you're fine once you get into a conversation.
Good luck and keep us posted on how it works out. VR
Author:  Speak87 [ Sun Nov 18, 2012 6:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Extreme approach anxiety
Hello decius...
Sounds like you're having a hard time approaching...
The first time (last week) I should open op a set of girls, I felt anxiety too.

I went by two groups of girls without the courage to try out any openers.

The thing that did it for me was to clear my mind from all thoughts which was about any negative outcome.

I focused only on one thing, to try out one single opener on the group of girls.

And afterwards if I didn't have anything more to say, so what? I would just say thx, goodbye whatever.. But at least I had accomplished one thing.

Take one step at a time, focus on that.. Remove all negative, frightening thoughts, and then just take a shot at it..

If it fails, so what... It's not the end of the world. :wink:
Author:  Evahgo [ Mon Dec 03, 2012 7:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Extreme approach anxiety
Ok you can laugh if you like but I turned to this when dealing with unruly bitch customers as a means to calm myself and I have found it to work on just about everything . I simply imagine the statistical likely hood that the girl has had a load across her chin in the last 6 months.It Completely brings them down every time..
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