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| Author: | TONY_GORDON [ Wed Oct 05, 2011 7:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | ISSUE! Have lost several options in just over a day! |
Apologies for the length of this post. I need to fill you in on this issue; I met a HB again in July in a club. I had previously been out with her several times in December 2010, but it was awkward and didn't end well, as we were friends before and she was still thinking of her ex. However in that night in July we really connected again, and ended in a kiss close and she agreed to meeting up again on our own sometime. I waited 4/5 days then text her and built the comfort up again. I asked her if she wanted to go out still and she said that she wasn't comfortable with it and thought we should meet up in town when we were with our own friends, I reluctantly agreed. However I was never out when she was and several weeks passed. We text over this time to give updates. In August, she text me saying that she wanted to go out with now as it had been long enough. We text almost every day from then on, but I would vary the time and length of texts, some were even quite explicit. We went on a date, which ended in a kiss close in a club, then a kiss close in an alley, where I pinned her against the wall and sucked her breasts, etc.. Seduction was always a strong point! haha. We continued to text and meet up again this time I convinced her to come back to mine, stating nothing would happen unless she could resist herself! We went back, kissed and I got a BJ, she left soon after, but it was her Birthday that day. We continued to text for a few weeks after this and even agreed on the next date, at mine, for some films and then some.... However, unexpectedly she text me on Saturday 1st October 2011, to say that it was over. She didn't think we could go on as she still felt something was missing and was still not feeling comfortable. I text her the next day to say that I was surprised and thought we could have been good together, and asked her why she felt like this? I offer her the chance to have one last meet up to see how it felt in person (and potential get a f-close). I was now low on confidence and decided to text another options the day after, and she never replied back, but I wasn't going to continue it with her either before that happened, but it still annoyed me and hurt my confidence. The original HB replied back 3 days later (Wednesday), obviously thinking about what I text, stating that she wasn’t feeling it when we were first started going out again, even though it was starting to feel easier. I don't know what’s happened to me, I feel like I've lost my game. So can anyone help answer the following; Why is this HB acting like this, is it comfort thing or what? (its not as if she's a player) Should I text her in a few days to say something like, ''Wow, guess you’re up for that offer then? Well offer expired. You've mucked me over twice now, and there definitely won't be a third time!'' To show I'm an alpha male that knows what he wants or does this just come across as AFC and needy? I do like her, and have put a fair bit of effort into this (I wouldn’t say it’s oneitis), but it is annoying feeling I have to start gaming again, where I simply don’t have time at the moment to do so. So should I say ‘’we should meet up in a few weeks or a month and meet as friends?’’ I just want to get my head round it, and learn from my mistakes, and hopefully resurrect the situation, to at least a friendly position, where I can build from. Or ask whether it is a Comfort or Attraction thing? As comfort can be rebuilt, but attraction is instant (although you do have to build this too). Can anyone help with this situation? I feel it must be the Comfort side as it can just be awkward at times. Attraction is reasonable and Seduction is fine. But I just don't know anymore. Have I just not built enough comfort with these HB's? Thanks for reading! Hope you can help |
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| Author: | bansario [ Wed Oct 05, 2011 11:48 pm ] |
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Tony, my man, please, can you give us a summary of what you have in there. We want to help you, but damn...that's a long story :p |
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