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In the end, I sent her an exciting message about why I feel it's important to live life to its fullest, take chances and try new things.
Eh.
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She bought me a chocolate bar as compensation for cancelling our last meeting...
Nice!
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We started at an interesting bar where we had a conversation. I chatted with a few random Americans in the bar as well just because I felt friendly (and I think it helped me show a high value as well)
Too try-hard.
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After about an hour I asked her if she'd like to try another place, and she said "no it's fine, I like this place". "Okay, so we'll stay 10 more minutes and then move."
You: Cool, I like this place too. But my place is even better. Let's get out of here."
One hour of talk? Fuck that. Pay attention to peaks in enthusiasm, and get her back to your place before those peaks fall off.
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We left the bar and I took her hand. I held it for about a minute during our uphill walk to the next place - which was about a 10 minutes walk in total. Then she started feeling uncomfortable and let go.
I hate this kind of KINO. Hand grabs are awkward, and more for relationships. Go for the kiss first.
KINO like hand holding, touching, breast "accidentally" brushing your shoulder is what WOMEN do to dominant MEN. Dominant men just go for what they want with a passionate kiss.
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We entered the place which is all comfy sofas and about 50 types of tea. I ordered a rum-tea. She didn't want anything.
That right there is a huge, red flag that your date is bored and doesn't want to stick around.
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And then we continued to talk... About our hobbies, random stuff really.
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You (as you stand): Let's get out of here and head back to my place.
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Though, I knew she was feeling uncomfortable. She sat with her legs crossed, and to the opposite direction from me, and I felt the chemistry isn't ideal. I tried to play the 'question game' in order for her to open up a bit,
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You (as you stand): Let's get out of here and head back to my place.
What many less-dominant men don't realize is that inviting a girl back to your place is exciting for her. She may reject you, but its NOT MUNDANE. It's effectively ramping excitement and maintaining interest.
Stop being afraid. Jump in, man.
You don't need to completely "crack her code" on the date to have her back at your place. You don't need to see "all the signs" or have a checklist. Because often, all that stuff happens in private, in your home. It's an ADULT, organic continuation of a date.
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but as I was trying to ask a bit more personal, sexual questions, she kept asking boring everyday questions. And if I I would say, "that's boring, find a better question" she would reply that.. she's not creative.
sounds like a horrible, tedious conversation. Was your plan to have sex with this woman or chat with her for five hours????
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Although I touched her all evening to try to get her to be a bit more responsive - playing with her hair and whatnot (though I'm 95% sure that I did not overdo it - it was quite occasional), I simply wasn't able to cross that barrier.
Oh man this is bad. Playing with her hair???? this kind of KINO is so passive, so tentative, so....not dominant.
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So I wasn't able to build comfort the whole evening, until she started looking at her phone and saying that she should catch the next bus which is in 20... 10... 3 minutes. I told her I think she's cute, to which she replied, "no. I am not."
Agh, how tedious.
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During the whole date she smirked quite a bit, tried to 'make fun of me' about random things (to which I immediately put her in her place), laughed sarcastically a lot (to which I said, "I don't like that laugh. It makes me feel like you're hiding a dark secret from me") etc'... So IDK, I feel like she doesn't really like herself. Which I don't find very attractive. In the past I use to fall for this manipulative sort like a melting marshmallow, but I'm tired of it and nowdays I honestly love women who are truly confident.
It seems like you don't have the slightest clue how to talk to women. Everything here is so awkward,so forced. "Put her in her place"????
"A" for effort, but...
Get to the fucking point with women. They respect men who don't waste time. your desire was to get laid. Be a cool guy, chat with her for a half hour, have a drink or two, and move the party to your place in order to be congruent with your desire.
Your fear of rejection manifested itself in weak-ass KINO, boring conversation and hesitation.