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Hey Guys, first of all, I am not gay lol but I noticed since a couple of weeks if I go out and I see girls giving me IOI's, I am not excited like "Man I wanna meet that woman" instead I am like "Meh, another girl where I have to put in all the work and then probably nothing will happen"
First of all something about me:
I am into pick up since I am 17 I guess and now I am 23 but I never had a peak where I had a month where I pulled 20 girls or so, I never fully developed that skill. I also have not slept with more than 10 women in my life which is pretty sad and horrible now that I write that, I mean for that time. My biggest issue is horrible logistics, and lack of action taking during the week because I live in the countryside and 1h away from the next mid-size city. Which means if I want to go out I have to drive 2h usually by myself with the car to the city and I am doing this for the past 2-2,5 years. I am also sick of the city because it the same thing over and over again. I watched a lot of course, youtube, read books like 3% man, AMS, no more mister nice guy, the way of the superior man, mystery method, etc. I bear in mind when reading content that I use my own brain and don't believe anything and get a different perspective and opinions on each topic, book, course, etc. So I would say I have the knowledge.
I was raised by my mum so I was very feminine and never had a girlfriend or so because I was always scared and didn't have the balls to say I like her because what would other people think. It's not like there were not even women, oh damn a lot of women were into me but I never took the chance
I also live healthily, didn't drink for over 3 years, no drugs, go to the gym 3-5 times per week and generally have a healthy lifestyle.
My personality:
I am extroverted, positive and really fun to hang out with. I almost can befriend anyone and make him smile, I offer value and always leave people better than I found them, I am enthusiastic and love to travel and do stuff instead to sit home and play video games. I also make thing epic and I am not some fucking weirdo. I have good social skills and know when things are awkward and when to stop.
My Looks:
I look really good, I raised my SMV, I lost weight, good hair, good body (almost six-pack), no acne, good clothing, I would say I am in the top 5% of the best looking men in the club/bar. And Guys I do get a lot of IOI's and especially since I look really good now (last 6 months) before that I was average. At age 22 and below my clothing and SMV sucked bad! Now when I get these IOI's it almost like an ego filler "Oh she wants me, good" and then I end up alone home and jerk off which is sad. It's almost like when a woman gives me IOI's and she is not an 8-9 or 10 I am not interested, does that sound stupid? What is wrong with me? When I approach women I am like "meh" attitude don't put any effort in it and of course, I fuck it up but even then if the girl is into me I reject her more or less.
I really believe guys I could have fucked over 100 women in the last year not kidding especially that last 6 months, all the IOI's I got when going out, even last weekend 2 girls asked me to have a threesome with them and I said no but I have to say they where like 5-6 but whatever, I even get sometimes approached when going out because of my looks.
But here is the thing that I think is my biggest issue. The Financial issue. I started a business 1,5 years ago (before i did affiliate marketing unsuccessful for 1,5, so 3 years in total) and it doesn't work. No income is coming in so my biggest issue in life is to make money. I am 10k in dept. My family relationship sucks and really suffers under it, I get emails from insurance, banks and credit cards that I own then money or they will sue me. So a lot of pressure and what am I doing? Not taking the right action to grow my business! I am like a fucking idiot. I believe because I am so fucked financially I can not let go and pick up women because in the back of my head I know I should not go out and pick up women instead I should sit at home and hustle my ass off! I also don't really have any joy or passion really for anything because of that when I think of it.
One thing that is bothering me as well as I have goals, visions. I almost didn't complete any of them due to my financial situation. I want to move out, travel the world, meet beautiful girls all over the world but I failed on them over and over again and it just depresses me. I am not thinking of quitting but damn I wanna achieve something. I feel like I am stuck at the same place for years, sure I developed but physically where I am, I am at the same. Bear in mind i am doing business for over 3 years and no income, like wtf. That really sucks.
I am also doing no dg and I know dg is an awesome funnel to meet women but I believe I have the skills to pick up women and if not I just have an immersion with some friends and just kill it, I have killed it before but never really upon a certain point.
Solution:
- Don't go out until you have enough money
- Move out from your mum's basement and live with some like-minded people
- Get better fucking logistics! (move to a city)
- Do dg instead of ng (but when you move out, here in the countryside is nothing)
- Re-Frame yourself for being excited when meeting women (if that is needed, not sure maybe if I have enough money this problem will solve itself) I belief this urge to fuck women and be excited again will come if I have finally had no burden on my shoulders and have money because this will solve all the problems I have, literally
- Game regular 4-5 times a week (more dg and ng when you live in a city)
Like I said I really believe that if I have some money and a successful business that I will be interested in women again because I can finally let go of that burden which is on my back since years.
Thanks for reading guys! If anyone has some advice I would highly appreciate it! Even if you have only one thing/idea/suggestion to mention or you disagree with a statement that I made or you think that some things are bs that i worte, please write it below, every help is highly welcomed