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I suppose the only way to fix this relies in what you'd call ' getting out of your comfort zone '. When you are afraid of something, the best way to get rid of the fear is to get exposed to what you fear as much as possible
Yes! But take baby steps, and gradually increase the difficulty up a level once you get used to your current challenge level. You don't want to go too far into your fear and outside of your comfort zone, because you may risk re-traumatizing yourself..and you'll be too afraid to take the same action for a while. So take action in a systematic and self-sustaining way. You will just diminish yourself otherwise, and that would be counter-productive.
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Also the nice guy thing,I really want to get rid of it - I'm not a nice guy per se, I actually am a real asshole at times, especially if I get pissed off or I don't like something, but I have a reflex to refrain myself from it. To me it doesn't seem that women hate it, rather everyone does, men and women. And they do the same thing about it, they take advantage, it's just that the way they do differs. If you meet a group of guys and you act needy as fuck do they accept you in their group ? Sure, so they would make fun of you or get something from you. Women do the same thing.
It's called "Beta-Male Shaming". Women as well as men shame other men that they believe are pussies and suckers, and they will directly and unabashfully disrespect you based on what their first pre-judgement of you is. It is different from a "Shit Test". It's hard to tell the difference when you're new to this game. "Beta-Male Shaming" is more malevolent in nature than "Shit Tests" are. For the most part, you just handle it the same way that you would handle a shit test - stand your ground (do not run away), do not become reactive by getting either too angry or too scared of the confrontation with the person who is shaming you. It's called "having a strong frame" in the midst of people who are trying to convince you that you're not good enough, you suck, and that you don't belong. You can work on developing a strong frame (or work on building your self-asteem) simply by defining what your boundaries and standards are for yourself and with other people, and not making exceptions or taking any shit from anyone who tries to overstep them. Do not accept anything less from yourself or from others. You need to respect yourself, and be respected.
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Also this friendzone thing, it doesn't seem real to me - friendship requires effort from both sides,with friendzoned guys it just seems their effort outweighs the woman's, so we go back to square one - taking advantage.
You can also apply what i said above about establishing strong boundaries and standards with girls that you want to bang too. If you want to be sexual with her, but if she doesn't want that with you, and instead..she rather keep you dangling in the friend zone..don't let it drag on for days, weeks, months, or even years. Women are notorious for wasting guys time in this game. Me and my boy Jeff (Jeff occasionally slays girls off of instagram, facebook & tinder. He's a social media man-whore. I'm more of a cold approach man-whore Lol), had a conversation about how much girls waste guys time, a few months ago once everyone left this house party that me him and a couple of our other buddies were at. You can fall into this trap very easily in this game. Let her know what your intentions are with her straight away by verbally & physically escalating on her. This is called "Screening For Girls Who Are DTF". And if she's still not trying to have a sexual relationship with you, but you want one with her..keep it moving. Either cut her off or freeze her out for a while (as a punishment for her not complying with your escalation), and talk to other girls who are more DTF than her.
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What I'm not sure about - do you get better social skills from these random approaches or do you need to read tons of material to actually get there ? I know, you'll probably reply with the fact I didn't start approaching - it's true, but I am currently in an exam period and I'll be finished in fall when I want to start approaching - I'll get back here then as sort of proof, if you can call it that. On the same subject, should I get Style's books or something else ?
Still focus on your academics, but also take action in doing this pickup & self-improvement stuff when it doesn't impede with your studies. Kinda like an extra-curricular activity. I'm of the belief that game is half theory, and half action taking. Do both. You have to study your craft, then practice what you study in real time.
-G