Well the point is that she has made a lot of bad experience and is now looking for a guy who can give her all the security she needs...maybe all of her former bfs have been AFCs and she broke up with them since they couldnt rule her or whatever.
U should show her that ur confident with what you are doing with her. That you enjoy urself and that she can have that too while she is with u.
Do u have a strong identity? Is it strong enough for her? Identity is very very important. U have to be comfortable with urself in order to make her comfortable. So lean back, relax, DHV and neg her here and there
Hope u can work this out. Dont concentrate on it to much. Enjoy the game. If it failes...well...thats what happens when u play games right?!