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ah overselling it literally lyin about it ok...
You're not trying to convince people that this stuff is actually true. It should be pretty obvious that you're exaggerating.
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i feel yah.
i been readin ur posts good stuff. thanks
Thanks!
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now in my last situation like this (last night) the guy and I were keeping the discussion going but who do I direct the suggestion to? The whole group?
Girls are funny about decisions. Especially group decisions.
The way that they decide where they want to go has nothing to do with how objectively good a place is. Think about it: if guys A and B are friends, and Guy A wants to go one place and Guy B wants to go to another, what do they do? They go their separate ways without a thought. No big deal.
Girls, on the other hand? They'll talk for potentially hours about where to go. The big thing for them is that everyone in the group is happy about where they're going. They'll keep tossing ideas around until finally everyone agrees on one course of action and they all go. This generally results in the decision merely being the lowest common denominator.
Split up? NEVER. Girls go out to be together.
This caused me a BIG motherfuckin' problem a few months ago. One of my pivots (although I think of her as more of a she-pimp) was supposed to bring this girl I knew to a show that I had told her about. I was going to the show anyway because I wanted to go, and I had told my pivot about it in advance. She promised to bring my target along.
But then other girls wanted to go out with them too. No big deal; this is all social circle. Most of these girls knew me. I wouldn't run into any problems with them being out as well. Hell, they'd probably help me out.
But the other girls "weren't sure" that they wanted to go to my show. One of them wanted to go somewhere else. So they talked about where they should go for
two hours, and eventually my show had already started so they didn't want to go there and went somewhere else. I was already at my show and was going to meet them there, so I couldn't influence this process.
My pivot, despite being the alpha female of that group, could not fight the groupthink, despite the fact that these other girls invited themselves along and then
changed my pivot's plans for her.
So yeah, you're addressing the group as a whole. Or at least the alpha female. You need to ride that groupthink mentality, 'cause you sure as hell can't fight it.