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PostPosted: Mon Dec 15, 2008 2:19 am 
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I know this an extremly broad question but what exactly is a grounding sequence and what is the best way to build one?


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I know this an extremly broad question but what exactly is a grounding sequence and what is the best way to build one?
Let me first explain what "grounding" is and then we'll look at routines we can do for this.

The idea of "Grounding" or you may here it said as "Grounding yourself in her reality" as a better way to explain it. The idea is that you are taking the things that she is telling you about herself and using that to convey your personality. You are taking ideas and emotions she has that you share with her and relating that.

Allow me to give you an example of how grounding might occur.

HB: I love being a nurse.
You: I can totally understand that. There are things like getting to help so many people that appeal to me as well. Like in my job I constantly have to adapt to new people, socialize with them, and then help them. Helping others is a core thought of mine, I'm sure you feel the same way?
HB: Completely....

OR

HB: There was this one time this guy was so rude to me. He came up and asked me for a drink and then called me a bitch when I told him no. Can you believe people today?
You: No Shit?!? I completely am tired of guys that act like that. I guess all those years of video games makes them anti-social. I see it happen all the time and it's inexcusable really. It makes me upset every time I see it. I'm sure you feel the same way?

These are just examples. Just look for things in what she tells you in which you can convey your personality. If she mentions an occupation think about what she does. Like for nurse you know she sees all kinds of people daily. You can talk about your social nature and how that relates to what she does. You are grounding an element of yourself in her personality. She knows the feeling you are just tying yourself to it so she understands you better and feels more comfortable with you.

YOu can tell I usually end this with the question of "I'm sure you feel the same way?" I do this to make sure I'm on track with what I'm telling her. This isn't anyone's particular method but I find it useful.

This mainly occurs during comfort phase of the M3 or C1. You may see elements of this also happening around A3: Male to Female Attraction at the end of the attraction phase of the M3 Model.

*If you aren't already familiar with Mystery's M3 Model you can do a search on the forum for it or find it in the Venutian Arts Handbook*

It's hard to really develop routines around it in my mind because I'm reactive to what I get the girl telling me about herself. Then I pick and use what elements I want to establish comfort and rapport. Some people create a custom routine stack with stories to convey certain great elements of their personality.

Hope this explanation helps out

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absolutly thanks...so basically you want elict her values and then relate them to you?


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absolutly thanks...so basically you want elict her values and then relate them to you?
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 15, 2008 7:09 pm 
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I know this an extremly broad question but what exactly is a grounding sequence and what is the best way to build one?
Let me first explain what "grounding" is and then we'll look at routines we can do for this.

The idea of "Grounding" or you may here it said as "Grounding yourself in her reality" as a better way to explain it. The idea is that you are taking the things that she is telling you about herself and using that to convey your personality. You are taking ideas and emotions she has that you share with her and relating that.

Allow me to give you an example of how grounding might occur.

HB: I love being a nurse.
You: I can totally understand that. There are things like getting to help so many people that appeal to me as well. Like in my job I constantly have to adapt to new people, socialize with them, and then help them. Helping others is a core thought of mine, I'm sure you feel the same way?
HB: Completely....

OR

HB: There was this one time this guy was so rude to me. He came up and asked me for a drink and then called me a bitch when I told him no. Can you believe people today?
You: No Shit?!? I completely am tired of guys that act like that. I guess all those years of video games makes them anti-social. I see it happen all the time and it's inexcusable really. It makes me upset every time I see it. I'm sure you feel the same way?

These are just examples. Just look for things in what she tells you in which you can convey your personality. If she mentions an occupation think about what she does. Like for nurse you know she sees all kinds of people daily. You can talk about your social nature and how that relates to what she does. You are grounding an element of yourself in her personality. She knows the feeling you are just tying yourself to it so she understands you better and feels more comfortable with you.

YOu can tell I usually end this with the question of "I'm sure you feel the same way?" I do this to make sure I'm on track with what I'm telling her. This isn't anyone's particular method but I find it useful.

This mainly occurs during comfort phase of the M3 or C1. You may see elements of this also happening around A3: Male to Female Attraction at the end of the attraction phase of the M3 Model.

*If you aren't already familiar with Mystery's M3 Model you can do a search on the forum for it or find it in the Venutian Arts Handbook*

It's hard to really develop routines around it in my mind because I'm reactive to what I get the girl telling me about herself. Then I pick and use what elements I want to establish comfort and rapport. Some people create a custom routine stack with stories to convey certain great elements of their personality.

Hope this explanation helps out
Brilliant explanation. I love the im sure you feel the same way. Nice thread.

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 Post subject: Re: grounding sequence
PostPosted: Mon Dec 15, 2008 7:21 pm 
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Brilliant explanation. I love the im sure you feel the same way. Nice thread.
I don't know about brilliant, but I do my best to make sense of all these fun terms that we have. :) Thanks for the compliments V1V.

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