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It sounds like they were into you, but got bored or frustrated. I think you were heading down the right direction, but the lack of escalation caused them to give up.
I would distance myself from them. Don't call, email or text, keep away. Let some time go by, give them the opportunity to miss and wonder about you.
Once their Attention Alarm goes off (every girl has one of these, the alarm goes off when they are being ignored or not getting attention) you can take control of the dynamic and try again.
The key is to keep busy with other options, encase this one doesn't pan out.
his word is bond.
I'm going through this same situation right now with a girl i find special. I'll go one step further and say the "let em get thirsty" method works well whenever one is trying to recapture a special female's attention...so long as you didn't creep her out or stalk her that is.
I had this one girl who I started out great with but could not progress because she had a man and neither of us wanted to be dishonorable. So after a while I really started to mess up until one day she got frustrated with me and tried to give an ultimatum. I reacted by just bouncing.
For weeks she would text me and i wouldn't respond. Til one day out of no where
I FELT like letting her talk to me. So I I.M. her once out of no where. She ignored me and it was obvious that she was trying to get me back for not responding to her. So after a few minutes of her not responding i just let her know I wasn't gonna wait all day for a response to tha question i asked because I have other more important things to do than wait on her. Then, without saying "bye" or "talk to you later" or anything like that, i just dipped (shows her you are a man who doesn't NEED her or anybody and aren't about to play any childish games. They love MEN who demonstrate with actions that they don't
need them but
want them).
I left her alone for a couple months and, what do you know, she messaged me out of nowhere saying how she was sorry she ignored me and she missed me. I left her hanging for a little while longer to show I am not needy. Then I was able to pick up again on a higher note when
I FELT like it. I came back with a more "I don't care what anyone thinks attitude" and it has gone a lot better with her. She sees me in a new light and is more appreciative of when I do ANYTHING for her.
I noticed I messed up again a couple weeks ago with her though (i told her directly i liked her thus giving her power and making me look weak) and she's already a spoiled little thing, so that was a bad move.
So I went over yesterday and noticed she keeps saying one thing but letting her body communicate another. She was testing me and playing games a lot...trying to expunge a reaction from me to gain power. So I built attraction, used negging, and body contact leaving a good impression all while showing I don't need her.
I'm about dip again to show her I'm not about games. The beautiful thing about the whole situation is I'm building myself up in her eyes by only showing her the MAN I truly am.
The important thing though is indeed to have other options and genuinely keep yourself busy and productive in your daily life. Thus, you are not faking being a man. You genuinely are one and really don't need nobody to feel complete.
She will realize how valuable you are to her once you are gone.