So I had another Tinder date tonite, no kiss but we will probably meet again. We hung at bar for like 3 hours. I know many of you would say wtf, no kiss in 3 hours??? I agree. I want to get better.
Take note of the "high point" in the interaction, usually about 30-45 minutes in. That's when you ask her to come outside for a moment. As soon as you close the door behind you, grab her and kiss her.
Three hours is way too much talking. You're expending key energy then that could be used for other things.
I dont know when and what is appropriate to say more sexually. In a nutshell, I need work on sexualizing in other ways beyond my subtle gradual kino and need to be willing to take the sexualizing "risks"
Would love any basic sexualizing tips (besides kino).
Anything can be sexualized.
You (point to the waitress): hot or not?
You: Yeah, hot.
Sexualize the whole place, because that's who you are at your core.
You: Would you consider yourself more conservative or wild?
You: Cool, I want to hear a story....
You(with a grin): boring! But I don't know, I see that evil gleam in your eyes...
You (a half hour in): I have to admit, if we went back to my place I'd make a move ASAP.
Her: woah, haha Really?
You: Yeah, let's get out of here.
Her: Sounds like trouble. I don't know you well enough I don't think.
You: what's your favorite color?
You: Mine is green. Now we know each other.