I'm learning that you can't just melt away and get quiet.
This is where muscular fitness comes in, and it does a lot of talking for you. You have DHV 100% of the time.
And if you say fuck em' and leave, then they win and you lose. Nick Sparks had a good presentation on that subject. He said that you should engage the person and show a lot of interest...at first. Give them an inflated sense of validation and approval so its noticeable to the group. Then start pulling it back. They talked about this in The Game book too. You basically create a frame in which other people have to seek your approval and validation and it ends up making you seem the most alpha and high value of the entire group. Easier said than done though.
This is all nonsense, IMHO.
First, the "they win and I lose" frame is bad, and needless. No one wins or loses. It's just another fucking day on planet earth trying to enjoy things. You have to get big, big BIG picture in your head to truly be above the fray. Be the bull elk, doing his own thing, focused on your goals like career, fitness, and literature. not the little yappy spike bucks all confused and chatty.
And it also brings me back to a diet, and muscular fitness. When you attain your best you, you don't have to talk much.
And we all know, from our experience on this forum (and others) that the #1 reason men get nexted so much by women is they talk/text them out of the initial attraction.
The attraction is ALREADY there. A woman has a pretty good idea if she'll sleep with you. Your goal is to keep it that way by being emotionally-centered, chill, and slightly aloof while using charming honesty/teasing.
The bull elk works on HIMSELF, and goes about his business in the mountains. He does not give a FUCK about the spike bucks and the clique groups. And as he goes about his way, cow elk gravitate towards him. And soon, he has a harem, and thus abundance mentality.