So, I think I have some ways to go in PUA skills but im better off than when I didnt know any PUA stuff.
I see consistent sticking points, some, the source is inner game and how it affects how I present myself, vibe, personality, personal tranquility, and the verbal riffing which is not my issue; im pretty funny off the cuff and its very helpful, specially when I pair it with smooth gradual kino.
But humor can quickly = dancing monkey. Humor lone wont do it. Gotta play it "cool?" to some degree always? Chics do it all the time I think.
I have difficulty sitting in a cool calm collected position for a long time. Im not jumping around but I move a bit in my seat. Im animated but I think that may telegraph too much effort. But that is partially how I generate my own high energy.
I do great 2 stools at a bar bc the kino is easy, its usually a date.
But outside of that, I struggle bringing kino bc girls may get creeped out. I just think its harder say at a Starbucks.
At dates, somehow the date context brings a built in reason to talk.
Random day game, I guess you gotta be more direct.
Thoughts on my thoughts anyone?
I agree with mostly everything that you are saying, especially when too much humor becomes "dancing clownish". I'm a natural at self-amusement, and i was a dancing clown pua in the beginning of my pua career. If you've ever watched "How to pick up girls?" videos on youtube (not the actual legit pua ones, but i'm talking about the prank ones
). That's very similar to how i was in my first 2 years in pickup. LOL
But later on, i balanced it out with "sexual intent", being more relaxed in my interactions with girls (just being more physically still & mentally/emotionally grounded), making statements of empathy (being more understanding of her situation & being more relatable to the girl) and listening to them more (talking way less)..which actually gets them investing into you more, as opposed to the other way around.
As far as kino (touching & getting physical with girls) goes..i think the proper way to use it (How to know if you're doing it right) is if it seems like it's mechanical, then you know that you're doing it wrong. Your kino on girls should be "gradual" and not "sudden". Your kino should also be an expression or really an extension of your own personality. It should seem like that is just how you express yourself with women. In other words..your kino should appear natural.
One way to do this, is to use the "kino escalation ladder" if you are familiar with that. If you're not, here's the link to it's full definition (http://www.pualingo.com/2011/02/15/kino ... on-ladder/
). For daygame, read my 10 steps "Sexual Escalation Process - From Approach To Lay" on page 2. Here's the link to that (field-reports/self-improvement-blog-vt201629-15.html
). For night game, if you are in a bar or club (similar to daygame), you start off with shaking her hand (on the intoduction)->high fives->hugs->and finally..dancing with her. Don't go for this kiss close after the hug LOL, if she's a "Yes Girl" then maybe you can. But preferably i would dance with her first, because dancing is actually a lesser commitment (lesser compliance) for the girl, than her engaging into a kiss or makeout with you. Usually dancing with her, will loosen the girl up for the kiss or makeout with you anyway. So that's very important for you to know.
And i want to break down dancing with girls a little bit further, because there's some simple mistakes that you can make when kino-ing girls on the dance floor.
#1 - If you're dancing with the girl..make sure that you close the space/distance between you and her. Your pelvic area (crotch area) should be rubbing up against her pelvic area..or rubbing up against her ass if you are dancing behind her. One of her legs should be between both of your legs when you and her are dancing face-to-face to one another, while one or both of your hands are holding onto her lower back or on her hips - pretty much looking like you and her are bumping & grinding on the dance floor. From a 3rd person's perspective..that's how it should look like (your outer game, dancing with girls on the dance floor). This is the right way to do it.
#2 - Smile, laugh, and "self-amuse" while you're dancing with the girl (It Helps Alot!). Faking it, even if you are not already having fun dancing with her (because maybe you are nervous, in your own head, or out-of-state) will actually change your physiology (your movement will get more loose and less stiff) and your mental/emotional state (your state level) will increase as you're dancing with the girl. This should take care of your inner game issues that you might've been experiencing before you got into your groove. And if you are familiar with the "Law of State Transference"..your positive non-verbals & sub-communications will infect the girl that you're dancing with, which she will become more attracted to you instantly, and she will want to keep dancing with you, probably even for the remainder of the night until closing time (which can lead you to a pull - just hold onto her hand, and walk with her out of the bar or club at closing time)..even if that wasn't the case with this girl earlier on in the night. This is real shit, I tell no lies here.
Alot of the times, the reason why us guys get AMOGed by other dudes on the dance floor is because we make these same simple mistakes, that we can easily correct. Doing the opposite of what i said to do in #1 & #2..Not closing the distance between you and the girl while the two of you are dancing..or not looking like you're having a blast dancing with her..can and will definitely attract AMOGs in your direction. Because they will see that, and will try to take your girl away from you. In other words..you have to "commit" and "look good" while you're performing your kino on her (look assertive in your kino dancing with girls, even if your natural personality is passive and not assertive. RSD Ozzy talks about this alot in his students infield videos) to make the girl want to stay with you, and to deter thirsty AMOGs who are lurking on the dance floor..looking to peel girls off of guys who look like they don't know what they are doing. Trust me..i had to learn #1 & #2 the hard way.