This is a situation. I will go from the beginning to give you full insight. Met this super hot girl at the bar on saturday a few weeks ago, great approach and conversation, everithyng went smoothly. Got a number.
I ask her out for drinks next week, she says ok. But then she canceled because she can't find a nanny, yes she got a kid. I have written it off, too much trouble. If we see each other in the club again great, but I am out. Then after 10 days she suddenly sends a message at midnight that she is at this club. Timing was perfect, I was on my way to clubs in that area with my friends, so I say I might come if she is there with her girls, otherwise my friends wont go.
Came to the club, she is with a few of her girls. My friends stay a bit but then find other spots. I stay with her and her girls, we switch a few clubs, they offer to pay for drinks all the time, can not refuse
, great flow. And night (already morning) ends with wild sex, fantastic night, girl is absolutely great and interesting. A few short texts next day, I can see she is a bit ashamed, but not too much. We had a drunk deal to see each other on wednesday, sex involved, (dont ask me what) but disasterous weather ruined it.
So, I do her routine on next friday, at midnight text her if she is in some club in area where I am, expecting she is since she goes out every weekend this spring. She is not, she is working in shifts, so at work. A few texts, I am already a bit drunk, try to arrange going out tomorrow, but from tomorrow she is out of city for a few days because of holidays.
I wait for next weekend for her to initiate. She does not contact me. Dont get me wrong, I am out having great time, both on friday and saturday, but lets be honest, I hope for her to contact me.
Yesterday, I send her concise text, lets go out for a drinks, exact place and two days to choose from. She says she can't because one day she is having a night shift, next day she goes to to movies with girls, and she yet does not know her work schedule for the weekend. Does not suggest specific alternative. I do some witty reply and leave ball in her court, say she informs me whe she is free. Not much options here, right? Resume with texting would be disaster, with this witty remark I leave on a high note.
So! I am a bit irritated by whole situation.
First, when you work in shifts and are a single mom, you have all excuses in the world: "I can't, I work" and anything concerning a kid (no nanny available, sick, blah blah). If she wants to be polite, no need for her to make some excuses up, she just goes with work/kid excuse. In situation with a girl with normal work schedule and no kids I would not go light, I would be so much more agressive.
My ultimate goal is to hang out with her when we not not wasted or in the club, so I can get an insight if she is worth my time in future. And my impression is, she definitely might be! Otherwise I would put her in one night stand category and not contact again.
So what the hell, how the hell do I get her for a date now, after more than a few missed shots I start feeling like a fool? By the way, she is always responding immediately to my texts, never ignoring, good remarks, funny, not like she is not interested. So what the hell?
1) Do I just leave this and wait again for her to initiate, ball is in her court, she will call when she has time, right
? In my expirience, coinflip at best. So if she does not contact me...
2) Do I reinitiate in a few days for one last time, with a new lets go for drinks date?
3) Do I call her on saturday midnight when she is in some club in city getting drunk and just try to work from there?
4) Do I just leave it if she does not respond? Maybe do some hail mary in a month or so?