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Besides I have been having problems recently because many girls I have talked to have failed to understand that I wanted to go out with them because I liked them and not because I wanted to be friends with them, so I thought it could be a qualification problem, i.e. me jumping straight into building rapport in a friendly way and not communicating to them that I liked them in that sense.
This sounds like it might be a flirting issue. That would be your too friendly sort of problem. Also I have been trying to use statements instead of questions. If you ask too many questions they will feel interrogated and you give away your mojo. You could say, "Ugh, I think I smell cigarette smoke" in an irritated way. I've never done that before though it could turn into a strong neg "So you smoke? It might be your hair (Ouch)." But if she doesn't smoke she'll just look at you funny like your a stroke victim. 
You could just say, "Fluff* Fluff* Fluff* I don't like smoking." If she is a smoker then She'll disqualify herself almost immediately. Just let her blow you off, hopefully not in a crowd. If she doesn't smoke and 'Doesn't mind' smoking, because she is so different and there is no way you two could be anything but friends, bust her balls. Something like, "Okay, you convinced me." Her: "Oh? Yeah? What do you mean?" or Silence. "Yep it's much better when people smoke because they are eliminating themselves from the gene pool." Her: "OMG how could you say that! Eww!" or stunned silence You: "Hey you were the one that was cool with it, okay, on second thought I take it back, and your not allowed to like death sticks anymore." Her: Blah Blah Blah. Once again this is just off the top of my head. I would never tell you to go do something I myself haven't tried yet without first telling you I haven't. Although if you do something similar you should PM me!Quote:
Can I ask a question that may seem stupid? Why do guys ask qualifying questions when they first meet women? It's not like we care to feel qualified to be in your presence when we first meet you.
In all honesty to the guy who asked this question, you're making meeting girls harder than it needs to be if you are concerned with asking a qualifying question. I like it when guys are interested in hearing the answers to the questions they ask.
Qualification is more than just a step in moving forward in seduction. It's about having an abundance mentality and being picky about who you spend your time with. Now women and men will make the same mistakes. Men tend to not qualify at all and women qualify too much.
In all honesty to the guy who asked this question, you're making meeting girls harder than it needs to be if you are concerned with asking a qualifying question. I like it when guys are interested in hearing the answers to the questions they ask.