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Hey All,
So i have been talking to this chick and we are mutually interested in seeing if we would be potential for a long term relationship. We have been talking a lot but have not met up yet (we will be in 2 weeks time).
From our talks, we have discovered that we have so many similarities with our likes and dislikes and we both find that amazing and are looking forward to discovering more when we meet each other.
I know i gotta work on my in-person game to be able to cast a good impression and build value and hence i am here to seek some advice/tips/pointers...
Also, i wanted to ask is it ok for me to ask her about what her ideal first date would be to get some ideas for our own?
As always, your insights are always appreciated.
First dates should almost always be you and her grabbing a drink (beer, coffee, or fuck even water). This allows for a short time frame that's not a huge commitment for either of you while also allowing you both to feel each other out.
You can talk to her and get ideas about future dates but the one AFC thing I used to do was ask her where she'd like to go. Big Mistake.
Girls don't want a passive guy, they want a take charge guy. The moment I started suggesting, but not commanding, where the first date should be I got results.
Example
Me: what time do you usually get off work?
Her: like 445
Me: If you're not busy, we should grab a drink tomorrow
Her: Ok! Yeah I'm not actually
Me: Union jacks at 5:15/5:30 work?
Her: Sure!
I met this girl on Bumble 4 hours earlier. I built rapport, bull shitted, cracked jokes, and we discussed where we live/work, etc. I transitioned from Bumble to text by simply saying "Hey I don't like texting through the app, you mind if we move this to phone? My number is ### ### ####." She texted me 8 minutes later.