Hey guys, maybe you could help out a bit by sharing your experience.

The parts I have pretty much covered:
- Connecting with girls online (dating sites, Tinder);
- Texting and setting up first date;
- General game, kino, etc.
- Kiss close on 1st or 2nd date.

But I struggle with transitioning to my place. I'm aware that she needs a reason beyond "Let's go to my place". So currently I talk about movies during our date. I'll make sure to mention I'm a big movie fan and recently bought a ton of DVD's. Provided we kissed, I'll say "Hey I'm really enjoying this... why don't you join me for drinks and a movie at my place?"

Problem is I still feel insecure and awkward popping that question. Maybe because she could reject me.

How do you transition to your place?

Anything really.

Take a shit.
See your goldfish-guitar-porno collection-Star Wars comforter-Velvet Elvis.

Then offer a drink, then a movie, then your wiener.

Tell her the Shining is my favorite movie, it's about what can happen when you spend too much time with family.

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I've found that it's better to not transition to your place, but instead to start at your place. I've done things from meeting at my place and finding a reason to just stay, cooking together, or having a movie night. It's easier to have a reason for her to be there before ASD kicks in than giving a reason for a girl to have ASD.

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Okay thanks for the 'one up' Jack lol

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Haha...no one up here. I'm just have lazy escalation.

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I 100% agree. Have done so many times.

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Makes sense, thanks. It's just that I meet chicks online and a first date at my house isn't really appropriate. But good suggestion for 2nd date onwards!

Why isn't it appropriate?

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As Jack said

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Thanks, guess the invitation is okay then. Some will say yes, some will say no - part of the game

Apart from liking her, any other rules or requirements before making a move to your place?

I only meet girls online so our first meeting will be that first date. In my experience most girls want to meet in a public place first.

Plus: my first date is always "drinks after dinner". I like to hang out at bars and lounges with some music. I feel it helps to get me and her in the right mood.

Do you invite online dates straight to your house? Or are you talking about girls you met in real life, got their number, etc?

Make a check list.

-Booze/wine/beer
-Pay Cable/Netflix
-Food/Snacks
-Toiletries
-Lube/Condoms
-Clean the dump
-Coffee/creamer
-Hide your Justin Bieber poster

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I'm talking both. The online advantage is that they've already built an image of me in their head, so there's not a lot of convincing.

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I struggle with this too, well actually transitioning to my place is easy to me, the problem is that I usually can't take them to my place and have to do the motel, and that's what's hard. I don't want to slingshot the topic of this thread to a different one, but it would be interesting to know how people deal with transitioning to a motel room...

What has worked for me is that I take the girl somewhere private and start the make-out session mixed with some conversation. I then start to get the girl more and more turned on until I tell her that we should go somewhere else more private. We just get in the car and I take them to the motel. I've gotten a few "WTF are you taking me" looks, but it has always worked so far, maybe because I've gotten the girls turned on enough... Although I admit it is always a little awkward when I get to the place.

One thing I'd add to this thread is if you want to make a girl more comfortable with meeting with and/or going back to your place from online, get good at phone game. Instead of just messaging online, then texting, which still makes you stranger, call her up and talk. Gets the girl feeling like she knows you more. Also, if you're talking to her on the phone and youre at your place, topics can come up that make it more sensible to meet at your place. For eg, you may be talking to a girl about what you're doing. You may say I'm watching X show, either she's seen it or not. If she has, you can suggest that you have to watch it together sometime, if she hasnt you suggest you have to show her. Or you can mention the new bottle of wine you got and she has to try it. Or you got a new X and dont know if it looks good, maybe she can meet at your place to give her opinion before you 2 go on the date. Big difference between texting her to come over, and talking to her on the phone about something at your place she should see or come do.

If you can chat on the phone before a date, I'd recommend to always do so. Makes the actual date easier and less about getting to know each other from scratch.