I'm actually so mad I just wrote for about an hour maybe two and had to restart so I'm gonna rewrite this In somewhat point form. No way in hell i'm gonna write as much as I did the first time... just the Point. Ill come back and elaborate on everything in the future
what to say what to say what to say what to say? I still suck at writing SPAM I don't know how to start my posts. what to say what to say WHAT DO I FUCKING SAY?!? too late she's gone.
Guess what? The words you would've used wouldn't have fucking mattered anyway. Compared to how you say it, what you say doesn't mean SHIIIIIIEEEEEEEETTTTTTT!
What You subcommunicate is SOOOOOOO MUCH MORE IMPORTANT than the words coming out your mouth.
Work on your subcommunication before you search for the perfect Opener, DHV, Routine, Etc.
Body Language is the basics of subcommunication. Bad posture makes you look small and weak. You Don't Want That Do You? Unh Unhhhhh.... I'm no expert so fuck teaching you good posture (Google It). Here's the Don't Do's:
-Don't Slouch (Slouching is ugly, it looks weird, it looks like you sleep with 5 pillows at night. When your slouching your head and chin are sticking out way too far) Don't Slouch.
-Don't Cross Your Arms (When you cross your arms you look closed off. Your hiding your heart you look scared. You look like your protecting yourself from danger. Your at a fucking party man unless there's a kid there who's been being brutally bullied for years you've got nothing to fear. When you open up and look vulnerable, you look approachable.)
Crossed Arms = Uninviting / Uninviting = No Fun / No Fun = No Girl
-Don't Move Too Fast (When you move fast you look reeaally nervous. Don't walk too fast. Don't blink too fast. Don't look around too much, or too fast (When you browse the room like 10-20 times a minute, you look like your anticipating danger; stupid). Don't turn around too fast. Don't reach for your drink too fast. Don't talk too fast. SLOW DOWN AND RELAX. It looks and feels better
Smile. Smiling is awesome. I love to smile. People love to see others smile. When you smile it helps everyone around you, including yourself feel better. Just don't overdo it as it looks cheesy as fuck.
Make Eye Contact. Don't stare. Eye contact isn't that special (In this part of the post). It's a must not a secret. However, many of us are unable to look someone in the eye when we're speaking to them so the ones who do maintain good, strong eye contact stand out.
Take Space/Get Close To Others. When you take space and/or get in other peoples personal space, it shows that your confident and unashamed of who you are. You are not afraid to assert yourself. Once again, just definitely don't overdo it as it could be perceived as weird or scary.
VOICE TONALITY & SPEECH
Project Your Voice/Speak Clearly. No one wants to hear you mumble. No one will hear you if you mumble. It's fucking boring when someone speaks in a monotone voice. People will get uninterested and stop listening. If you struggle in this area Google 'Voice Projection and Voice Strengthening Exercises'. People will be captivated when you speak clearly and with energy.
Act Out Your Words. When you make hand motions and live the emotions you were feeling in the moment your talking about, or emotionally express how you feel about something, you are much more captivating and your listeners will emotionally understand where your coming from.
EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE EMOOOOOOOTION <3
Don't Worry About What To Say Next. People don't care if you say "the perfect line" or not. It's only required when bantering. Even then it's only half required as I would love to be out bantered by a girl. It'd be sooo sexy. Focus on listening to what people have to say so that you can actually understand them fully. It's a conversation ffs don't worry in most cases your not being judged for the words you chose. (I struggle here too)
Don't Talk Too Fast. When you talk too fast, its hard to understand, it's annoying, and it's obvious as hell that your nervous. Slow It Down Soldier.
PUTTING OUT THE RIGHT VIBE
Show the girl that your interested in her. You have to make the moves. SHE KNOWS THAT YOU WANT HER, So fucking own it!! Lead her around, touch her, go in for a kiss. Start small but START EARLY. The longer you take to make your move, the sooner she'll label you as a pussy.
Put out the vibe that 'yeah your fucking hot and I want to fuck you right now but if you turn out to be less than I expected then i'm willing to walk'
Show her that she wouldn't be ruining your night if she chose to walk (Don't just show her that. Believe it. It's a healthy way to think.
Make deep, intimate, meaningful eye contact. I've only done this like 3 times but i absolutely love to look a girl in the eyes, triangulate, smile, bite my lip, compliment her and wheel. I'm sure they loved it too.
Show her that you fucking love yourself. If you don't, you might want to work on that. It's soooo sexy to girls. They feel comfortable around men like that.
Kino Escalate Til You Fuck Her
HOPE THAT HELPED
once again, this is my second time writing this post and I really didn't want to elaborate on shit as much as I did the first time. It took sooo long to write i'm still pissed i'm writing this. but yeah... how you subcommunicate.... SUPER IMPORTANT. Definitely not something i'd ignore.