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Then I started noticing that she wouldn't put my pictures on fb but had loads of pics of her ex. I confronted her about this and she said she woudln't remove those pics and put mine after getting engaged or something..(we were planning to get married) ..after shitty fight on this, I called her a "whore" and we broke up. But immediately I learnt that she had begun going out with her bunch of friends that also contained "him".
This is a perfect example of what I mean by men who aren't "emotionally-centered".
One year isn't really a long time, and to demand she post photos of you, and take down old ones of her ex is neurotic behavior.
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I became beta instantly and called her and we made up and we began being together again but she was clear she wouldn't remove his pics and put mine at a right time.
You still brought it up?
LOL.
Understand that socially valuable women want things to happen organically. They will initiate "the talk", "moving in", and other relationship points when they feel emotionally ready to (this includes posing photos of you online). No amount of you trying to convince them through words will work.
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We made love in the coming months and it was okay. We just didn't confront each other on that topic and she remained friends with him although with almost no contact.
It sounds like you never really got back together with her, just had sex a few times
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In march this year, she invited him to her brothers wedding after seeking my "permission". Initially I said okay but when I saw her giving him full attention and introducing me to her college friends and him as "a friend" i freaked out and went away from the party and texted her that I didn't want to see her again.
Like I said in the last reply, after the first breakup, you were never back together again. You were just fuck buddies.
You just didn't realize it. You thought you wee exclusive again. So when she treated you like a fuck buddy ('hey guys, this is my friend"), you lost your shit emotionally, and she ghosted you. Your lack of emotional intelligence, and your insecurity blindsided you in one fateful night, and you lost her.
Make no mistake, she dumped you the first time because you are unable to control your emotions. And she dumped you the second time because you were unable to control your emotions.
See a pattern here?
Take a sticky note, and write this on it:
"Is this a negative, emotional text?" and stick it to your cell phone, and read it before texting women. It's basically training wheels for you until you learn to control your emotions.
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She emailed me and said you're a psycho and all and some exchanges of similar emails later all ended.
We haven't spoken or seen each other since about 4-5 weeks now.
sounds fun.
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she never ever said anything to put me above him or to show that she valued me over him which made me sad.
You didn't earn it.
You earn a woman's devotion by doing these things:
1. Great in bed (dominant, giving orgasms).
2. Emotionally-centered (not calling her a whore during a fight, being needy about FB photos, blowing up her phone, losing your cool often, etc).
3. Remaining playful, teasing most of the time.
4. Confident.
5. Fitness.
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1) i might not be able to find a beautiful girl as her to be my gf, given my age (30 now) and the social environment I'm stuck in (9-5 IT job in India)
Hahaha
I'm in my early 40's and all I fuck are 20-somethings.
Age does not matter for men, fitness and remaining emotionally-centered does. It's why beautiful models and other young women often prefer older men. 95% of guys are emotionally-retarded, or bad in bed, and young guys are even worse. Most never change.
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I am so so freaked out of my age 30 years that once in a park i saw young couple (maybe 18 years) holding hands and I found myself being jealous of them..
This is fucking pathetic! Go on some photo tours in India, and watch animals eat each other (India has kick ass wildlife) do man things. fix a car, sand and repair something in your house.
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I can't focus on the things I am good at - writing, music and stuff
No! That's exactly what you SHOULD be focused on. My god man, write and dive into music, and approach women at bars and restaurants, etc. Forget this girl.
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This is coming in the way of my gaming other girls too. I had sex with other girl post breakup but I couldn't enjoy myself.
I got dumped by my current gf (who's moving in Friday, god help me) about four months in for being a cold asshole. I went and fucked a few girls during that month, and I did not enjoy it either. The reason is because it's a number's game. Eventually you'll find someone you do enjoy as much. But the odds of it happening very soon are slim.
So just go out there and make yourself available.